confusing new relationship HELP

[psteve]

Out of the frying pan...
...Into the fire.

[stars stars stars]

^^ty i much much appriciate your bluntness

Im aware im immature with a lot of things But in a lot of ways Im very mature for my age. and he has seen that side of me. i live alone, pay the rent, have a job, i have 0 support from my parents, i have been all over the world, and have met a lot of people, and i have a lot to takl about with him. so its more than sex.

but damn i do need to either pull some dominatrix shit, i cant keep making excuses, i always do for men, he will pry fuck with my head. as much experience ive had with guys its never been good ones. hes been in a lot of relationships and told me that his last gf threateneded to kill her self if they ever broke up. and i can see how that would happen. hes promiced me the world. and just because he has the money to give it to me doesnt mean he will. im not into him for his money just want to poitnt hat out. but i can see him dragging me along.
my first instinct was to stay away and i should go with that.
thanks agian everyone for helping me.










even though im probably going to stay with him being well aware i shouldnt!

Just because you have the responsibilities of an adult, just because you know a lot of people, been a lot of places, FEEL more mature than others..doesn't make you grown. You're still a little girl, and a little girl who's gonna get her heart broken by a full grown man.

Don't come back here and bitch because I'll be the first to say "I told you so"


Why ask for advice if you aren't going to take it?

Good luck in life, dear.

[THClord]

huge ego, 10 years older, like a dream, warning from friend, start with sex

5 big warning signs. I'd think even 3 would be enough to say he's probably gonna screw you over.

[420MissHighTimes420]

Just because you have the responsibilities of an adult, just because you know a lot of people, been a lot of places, FEEL more mature than others..doesn't make you grown. You're still a little girl, and a little girl who's gonna get her heart broken by a full grown man.

Don't come back here and bitch because I'll be the first to say "I told you so"


Why ask for advice if you aren't going to take it?

Good luck in life, dear.

i know i can be really imature, i just tryed to hide it from him i guess, because we do get along and have good conversations.

i ask for advice because i was really confused. and i want to take it. i really do, but when ive found someone who i actally like its real hard for me to let them go. even if i know i should, whichi s soemthing ireally need to work on. i always say im going to take advice and do what i know is best for me, but im just lieing to myself.


and yeah im going to need that good luck because im obviously a stupid slut.

[TallCoolOne]

Oh alcohol, the cause AND solution to all of life's problems.

[stinkyattic]

I don't see this thread ending well. That last comment sealed the deal.

This 'relationship' is NOT going to end well either. T
ake it from someone who has been there.

And oddly enough, I had a long sit-down last night wiht one of my closest male friends who was having a guilt attack because he was starting to think that HE was doing the same thing, and I told him the honorable thing is simply to end it and cease all communication with the 18 year old girl- not woman, GIRL- in question, who I have a great amount of respect for personally. She's old beyond her years but that doesn't mean she doesn't have the emotional issues of a teenager still.
Look at yourself honestly. Look at HIM honestly- trust me, older guys who are worth dating are looking for a mature woman who is a potential partner. Not to be cruel, but he almost certainly looks at what he's got going on with you not as a relationship at all, but as a fling.

Do what you want. I could tell you, "Be careful and protect yourself". But the only way to do either of those things is NOT to put yourself in situations where there is an imbalance of power. And this one is WAY outta whack.

Oh- and providing a minor with a 'bottle of lemon bacardi'- and then having sex with her- that's simply disgusting. Shame on him.

[Psycho4Bud]

Ya find assholes in every group. Personally....I'm 45 and my LADY is 24. We have the same taste in music, movies, foods, long rides on the scoot, MANY other activities.......she doesn't toke but also doesn't mind that I do. :thumbsup:

Kind of nice to have a lady that isn't out to burn up my stash or my wallet..........I do spoil her though and likewise, she spoils me.

Have a good one!:jointsmile:

[HighTillIDie]

lol, i see this as another victory for a player.

play on brother, play on

[420MissHighTimes420]

I don't see this thread ending well. That last comment sealed the deal.

This 'relationship' is NOT going to end well either. T
ake it from someone who has been there.

And oddly enough, I had a long sit-down last night wiht one of my closest male friends who was having a guilt attack because he was starting to think that HE was doing the same thing, and I told him the honorable thing is simply to end it and cease all communication with the 18 year old girl- not woman, GIRL- in question, who I have a great amount of respect for personally. She's old beyond her years but that doesn't mean she doesn't have the emotional issues of a teenager still.
Look at yourself honestly. Look at HIM honestly- trust me, older guys who are worth dating are looking for a mature woman who is a potential partner. Not to be cruel, but he almost certainly looks at what he's got going on with you not as a relationship at all, but as a fling.

Do what you want. I could tell you, "Be careful and protect yourself". But the only way to do either of those things is NOT to put yourself in situations where there is an imbalance of power. And this one is WAY outta whack.

Oh- and providing a minor with a 'bottle of lemon bacardi'- and then having sex with her- that's simply disgusting. Shame on him.

first I bought that bottle. I have a bar in my apartment he comes over and drinks there. I drink his stuff too, but he actually didnt let me drink last time I hung out with him because he was tired of seeing me wasted all the time.

and what makes someone mature anways? If we can have good long conversations with each other isn't that ok? Hes not the most 'mature' guy himself. I dont feel like I have to play grown up with him.


This thread is stupid. delete it if you want.
im messed up thats the point. im so confused im goign insane. ive been with another older guy who was 36, I was 17. i caught him and his wife out to lunch after we 'broke up' he told me i was supposed to be a one night stand. ive been with abusers, and useres, and i dont no how to end this shit.


im sorry i need to vent, as Ive lost all my friends, to either jail or college, or 'I'm jst too far to visit' which I guess this is why Im so into him.

maybe im just way over my head. maybe moving out so soon was dumb. ive given myself hives im so stressed out.

sorry for being such an as on this thread.

[Psycho4Bud]

lol, i see this as another victory for a player.

play on brother, play on

Call it what you want but as for me it's not being the "player"......been there done that and it got real boring and dangerous.

When your sitting in a bar and a congregation of ladies that you've "been with" gather around ya it's real scary!!! I had visions of John Bobbit running through my head till I ran out the door.

Have a good one!:jointsmile: