confusing new relationship HELP

[420MissHighTimes420]

ok so since i was banned i couldnt ask all of you for advice, and it sucks not being able to tell my friends about this guy. so yay i finalyl can now
so about 2 weeks ago this crazy drunk girl was over my place and invited this guy over. i thought she liked him, and she used to hook up with him. she passed out cold so we had her sister come get her. she left. me and this guy had sex right away, because well i just broke up with my bf and this guy was too good to be true. the bottle of lemon bacardi didnt help either. he has every quality i have been looking for. besides his extreme ego (which he does have things to back it up with at least).
so i was real happy i met him becase he is older (i have a thing for older guys) really succesful, nice, well traveled, smokes delicious pot and almost as much as me!, and he is a old school mannered guy - opened car doors and shit which is real sweet and im not used to it. he even took me out to dinner. i have dated guys for eyars who never once took me out. all we did was sit aruond with there frineds and get high. its nice to go on a date for a change. but stillget high lol :thumbsup:
but the next day when that alcholic girl (lets call her A) found out she told me to stay away. he is 28 im 18, she said he will tell me he wants a relationship with me. and bullshit me a lot. that he is a sleezebag and a creep and will use me as long as i let him.
this really worried me because i have been used A LOT in the past, and i fall for stuff easily.
she was right, he keeps telling me he wants a relationship and stuff. just not yet. i mean we did just meet.
ive spent a good amount of time with him lately. and i really really like him
should i listen to my friend and stay away??????? or should i just try and figure him out on my own???
because i mean people talk shit on me, and althoguh its true sometimes, it doesnt make me a bad person. and whats so wrong about only liking young girls? and by young imean early 20's and older teens. soem guys only like girls with blonde hair. and wouldnt most guys want a younger woman?

other delemma. my ex - who thinks that we will be back together wen hes home next summer because we always get back together, but i dont want to be with him anymore i dont think. has been trying for weeks to come see me. he finally got a ride. planning to come here. the new guy says he wont talk to me if he sleeps at my place.
i dont have the heart to tell my ex not to come, even thoguh i told him ive been seeing someone.
and i dont want to loose this guy. should i just lie to him? id feel wrong doing that, but a white lie cuoldnt hurt right?
so confusedddddddddddddd

420MissHighTimes420 Reviewed by 420MissHighTimes420 on 09-19-2007. confusing new relationship HELP ok so since i was banned :mad: i couldnt ask all of you for advice, and it sucks not being able to tell my friends about this guy. so yay i finalyl can now so about 2 weeks ago this crazy drunk girl was over my place and invited this guy over. i thought she liked him, and she used to hook up with him. she passed out cold so we had her sister come get her. she left. me and this guy had sex right away, because well i just broke up with my bf and this guy was too good to be true. the bottle of Rating: 5

[friendowl]

if your 18 and he's 28 hes going to take serious advantage of you
if you want the upper hand in the relationship take control now
dont lie cuz that shit always looks bad when it comes back and it will
just be straight out and tell peopel how things will be you control the situation
you gotta understand from a guys point that maybe this new guy likes you
or whatever but he knows that your ex and you will probobly fuck or atleast he will try
and no guy wants those thoughts going thru their head

[420MissHighTimes420]

ty friendowl.
how would i go about taking control?

[stinkyattic]

ok so since i was banned i couldnt ask all of you for advice,

Drop it. I've already deleted ONE of these threads. Bans aren't handed out for no reason.

On the topic, this sounds skeezy... 'we had sex right away' does not sound like a proper beginning to a relationship, particularly with a guy you JUST met, who is 10 years older than you are. I think you already know the answer to your own question.

[Reefer Rogue]

It sounds like he's a player.

[beachguy in thongs]

If you feel he has an extreme ego, that would be the first clue that he might not put you first. He's already placed himself in front of someone you know very well.

[420MissHighTimes420]

Drop it. I've already deleted ONE of these threads. Bans aren't handed out for no reason.

On the topic, this sounds skeezy... 'we had sex right away' does not sound like a proper beginning to a relationship, particularly with a guy you JUST met, who is 10 years older than you are. I think you already know the answer to your own question.

yeah i know the first night thing was bad. but ive actually gotten to know him pretty well. and we have less sex than in most of my other relationships, he actually takes me out. i realize the age difference seems sleezy, which is why i wanted others opinons on it. althoguht i find myself beign very very very attracted to men evern in there 50's. plus ive never had such good sex in my life. hes done stuff to me i never knew i would love. i really do not no the answer, im very torn.

[420MissHighTimes420]

If you feel he has an extreme ego, that would be the first clue that he might not put you first. He's already placed himself in front of someone you know very well.

good point

[stars stars stars]

Damn girl. Either pull some dominatrix shit on him right now or leave. He's going to control you, he's going to treat you like a possession, he's going to fuck you and chuck you, eventually.

You started off the relationship wrong. Good relationships don't start with sex, it's possible, but for the most part they don't.

He's way too old for you, and this is coming from a girl who likes older men as well. He's almost thirty... and you just got out of high school (or are still in it). Don't you think there's something wrong with that? Yeah, some guys like blonds, that's a physical attribute. Age matters up until a certain point in life and trust me, honey..you're not there yet. You're a little girl and he's a full grown man, as attractive as that is, you're putting yourself in a horrible position. I was there when I was younger, luckily I've learned from that huge mistake. You can either take this as a learning experience with good sex, fun and pot...or you can throw yourself at this boy (I say boy because no man would do this) and get emotionally fucked.

On the other hand, you can date him and fuck with him emotionally. Find his weak spots, fuck with his head, fuck with his heart, give him blue balls, ect.

Either way, you basically lose.

(Sorry for being so blunt.)

[420MissHighTimes420]

^^ty i much much appriciate your bluntness

Im aware im immature with a lot of things But in a lot of ways Im very mature for my age. and he has seen that side of me. i live alone, pay the rent, have a job, i have 0 support from my parents, i have been all over the world, and have met a lot of people, and i have a lot to takl about with him. so its more than sex.

but damn i do need to either pull some dominatrix shit, i cant keep making excuses, i always do for men, he will pry fuck with my head. as much experience ive had with guys its never been good ones. hes been in a lot of relationships and told me that his last gf threateneded to kill her self if they ever broke up. and i can see how that would happen. hes promiced me the world. and just because he has the money to give it to me doesnt mean he will. im not into him for his money just want to poitnt hat out. but i can see him dragging me along.
my first instinct was to stay away and i should go with that.
thanks agian everyone for helping me.










even though im probably going to stay with him being well aware i shouldnt!