Quote Originally Posted by The Great Wave
he also says that if it was a choice to hang with me or the guy friend (if we both had pot) he would choose me. but i never ever have pot because no money.

i moved here to be with him so this is his town and not mine.

i dont know, i feel shut out and jealous of his friend. i shouldnt have to have pot for him to want to hang out with me.
No offense, please take this as constructive criticism.

Re-read the bits I quoted from you.
You sound... clingy?
He sounds... detached?

You already know the answer to this. He is not at a place where he's ready to be in a relationship right now. If he's trying to start a business and all he does is talk about it and smoke pot, that business is going to fail anyway. You moved to his town to be with him? Did you see any of the warning signs BEFORE you moved?

It sounds like you have nothing in common except pot. Pot isn't an end unto itself, it's an enhancement of the lifestyle you already live. If you have mutual interests, smoking can make them even more relaxing. But it just doesn't sound like you do anything together except sleep.

Time to move out, move back to YOUR turf. If he wants to be with you, he'll make changes. If he doesn't, he wasn't worth your time anyway. There's no forcing a relationship that simply isn't working.