Weedhound's exactly right. If you're taking his calls, PB, you're reinforcing the behavior he's exhibiting and the actions he's taking. It's fine for him to cry because those are his feelings and only he can control his feelings and the expression of them, but don't reward his manipulative behavior by allowing him access to you. He needs to handle those feelings on his own and grieve without dragging you into it. Also, you don't need to be taking on any guilt or believing you've caused him to express his feelings in that way.