Quote Originally Posted by Purple Banana
I'm really close to his mom, and she would smack him over the head for pulling something like this, but it's going to make working with her much more different- she was happy I was making him happy. It's not her relationship, we both realize that, but she tends to take things personally and hold a grudge. She's a great woman, but she is moody. I hate to see her like that, but it has to happen...

I was thinking of saying Im too busy for anyone right now (which is true), and it's not fair to him to maybe see him once a month, and I love him, but not in a romantic way, like a friend love.

EDIT: Thank GOD we didn't have sex, he's a virgin, and he's from those "Only have sex with someone you REALLY REALLY love and is 'The One' " kind of camps.
Well it's good you know what you have to do. I hate seeing people too attached to their mom's (I have a friend like that). And if her mom decides to hold a grudge over it, (excuse the language) then fuck her, really. And in that case I'd say tell her off and let her know it's none of her business and she needs to let go of her son and let him grow up. And if he can't do it on his own, then she's half at fault for not pushing him out of the nest.

I don't agree with letting him off quick and to the point. It needs to be to the point, but I would at least clearly let him know why. At least let him learn from the situation. I'd say tell him that he needs to grow up, and look at life in a more serious and responsible manner. And tell him relationships like this won't work. If he wants one that will, he should go for someone who doesn't have responsibilities and is not that independent yet.

Well good luck, I'd say you got this under control.

Quote Originally Posted by Weedhound
Wow....never seen anyone actually set a time limit on it before.
Well, I'd say the reason why there's a time limit is because as she said, she's very busy. If your week is packed, week after week, when you need to take care of something that isn't in your regular schedule, out of what little free time you have, you need to figure when you can fit that in. And then you have to make sure you do it. So if she has a window where she can go see him at 7 and do it, then she has to do it then otherwise it could go on for another week or so.