Why why why WHY?!

[Purple Banana]

Haha aww I didn't mean to!

[JaggedEdge]

PB, your a heart breaker. I'm happy you escaped.

Good luck with his mother in the future. :thumbsup:

[Purple Banana]

Oh geeze, he keeps calling me, crying... I hope he doesn't do anything to hurt himself... Over me? It's not worth it!

[slipknotpsycho]

told you it was gonna be 10x worse.... did you honestly expect him to be like "oh.... ok... i understand" and let that be the end of it? :jointsmile:

[JaggedEdge]

Your going to have fun these next couple of days.

Firstly, don't worry about him killing himself. If he is that unstable, it will happen eventually.

Secondly, don't take him back out of fear of him killing himself. I made that mistake once... Hopefully your smarter than I am.

More than likely, he will cry for a few days and than move on.

You weren't lying when you said he was needy, were you? I'm not insensitive, but for some reason I'm attracted to very unstable girls and have been in your situation (as best as I can tell) several times.

[Chronisseur]

Unfortunate, but you gotta take care of #1. It's one of those shitty feelings that we ALL have to go through atleast once in life. Keep ya head up and know that you're doing the right thing by pleasently saying goodbye. I've always found that a little time in between relationships is a good thing. Gives you time to 'remember' the things YOU want and need.
Good job and good luck:thumbsup:

[Purple Banana]

I didn't think he was going to be like "Oh okay I understand", SKP, but I don't like seeing people cry, it kind of gnaws at me. I'm not going to take him back out of pity... Then I'd realize my mistake and end it again, and he'd be twice as miserable.

His brother's there though, so he should be okay I think.

[Weedhound]

Pb....remember me? Thanks for the memories....then hang up. I am not kidding...if he continues to call don't answer. Talking to this young man in ANY way will feed his fantasy that if he is pathetic enough he'll be able to control your emotional strings. STAY AWAY FROM HIM COMPLETELY. Good luck and be strong.....you are NOT responsible for this young man and his issues. DO NOT buy into it.

[birdgirl73]

Weedhound's exactly right. If you're taking his calls, PB, you're reinforcing the behavior he's exhibiting and the actions he's taking. It's fine for him to cry because those are his feelings and only he can control his feelings and the expression of them, but don't reward his manipulative behavior by allowing him access to you. He needs to handle those feelings on his own and grieve without dragging you into it. Also, you don't need to be taking on any guilt or believing you've caused him to express his feelings in that way.

[WeedyBoyWonder]

Hey Purple B, from reading this I would say you deffinatly did the right thing and couldn't have really done it in a better way. The way you feel only shows that you care about the dude, but if you don't want to be with him, it's as simple as that, you don't want to be with him.
Good luck @ work with his ma, I hope shes not a total bitch!