Why why why WHY?!

[Purple Banana]

THE DAY I am supposed to break up with my boyfriend (I'm too busy for anything right now, he's very clingy, a total momma's boy, and he has failed his driver's test 3 times. He's 20.) he walks 5 HOURS to my house from his to bring me flowers. I wasn't there, I was at work.

I can't believe this. I appreciate it in a kind of a "It's so sweet, I've never had a guy do this, but it's gonna make the break-up MUCH more difficult" WHY WOULDN'T HE CALL 1 800 FLOWERS?!

I don't know what to do... I am soooo tempted to text message breakup, but he (nor any other guy) deserves something that shitty.

Purple Banana Reviewed by Purple Banana on 09-07-2007. Why why why WHY?! THE DAY I am supposed to break up with my boyfriend (I'm too busy for anything right now, he's very clingy, a total momma's boy, and he has failed his driver's test 3 times. He's 20.) he walks 5 HOURS to my house from his to bring me flowers. I wasn't there, I was at work. I can't believe this. I appreciate it in a kind of a "It's so sweet, I've never had a guy do this, but it's gonna make the break-up MUCH more difficult" WHY WOULDN'T HE CALL 1 800 FLOWERS?! I don't know what to do... I Rating: 5

[make it legal]

Lol, other guy?

[I Justburn 247]

damn five hours?! do him a favor and end it. sounds like maybe this is his first relationship or somethin and he's not really sure how it's supposed to go..

Stay high

[Purple Banana]

No, I WISH I had another guy... I would never cheat on him, nor break up with him for another guy anyway, that plain sucks.

I'm going to do it tonight, I just don't know what to say... I was really optimistic about the whole thing in the beginning of our relationship, but I feel that might be because his mom (whom I work with) played matchmaker, and I guess I just went with it.

[stinkyattic]

Oooooh clingy to the maxxx.
Sweet, yes...
Stalker potential? Perhaps.
Run away!!!!

[Purple Banana]

I'm really close to his mom, and she would smack him over the head for pulling something like this, but it's going to make working with her much more different- she was happy I was making him happy. It's not her relationship, we both realize that, but she tends to take things personally and hold a grudge. She's a great woman, but she is moody. I hate to see her like that, but it has to happen...

I was thinking of saying Im too busy for anyone right now (which is true), and it's not fair to him to maybe see him once a month, and I love him, but not in a romantic way, like a friend love.

EDIT: Thank GOD we didn't have sex, he's a virgin, and he's from those "Only have sex with someone you REALLY REALLY love and is 'The One' " kind of camps.

[IThinkIamFeelingit]

WE HAVE A STAGE I CLINGER ON OUR HANDS

[JaggedEdge]

If it helps the whole process think of this way. What guy in his right mind would even consider walking 5 hours to your house just to bring you flowers. Delivery seemed like the obvious option to me as well.

Just be polite about it and explain to him you are both in two different places in your life. Therefore, you honestly can't imagine a healthy future with him. I always preferred direct breakups. I start of nice and they more they push or the more they would try and get me to change my mind, I would tell him even more bluntly, why I don't want to be with them.

There really is no real nice way to break up with someone. Or rather, when you are really nice about it, you stand a greater chance of accomplishing nothing and wind up still dating them after the two hour long sob fest...

I hate breaking up.

Good luck

[Purple Banana]

Trust me, I really really want to end it, and I won't ever go back to him... He's just too needy.

But thanks for the words of advice. Im doing it tonight at 7 o'clock (6 o'clock Central), so tune in!

[Weedhound]

Wow....never seen anyone actually set a time limit on it before. Good luck and get rid of hiim.......however close you may be to his mom I'm not sure that's enough but I hope so. What does she think of him walking five hours to bring you flowers? Why isn't she cracking him over the head for that? That one ALONE is enough to set off plenty of alarm bells in my head.

Don't mince words and don't let him down nicely. Thanks for the memories....we aren't right for each other. Period. Don't discuss it, don't say it's you and not him. Stick to the first two sentences and that's it.....anything else.....get a lawyer first.

good luck......really.