Rebgirl,

I did NOT read all three pages of this thread so my info may be completely useless or a better thought......done already but here is what I think.

It's perfectly normal to have fantasies...any kinds....no laws......the rules are indeed in the acting upon them.

Try to get together with John and find some new things to experience....anything new that you guys have not done together.....it'll help refocus you both on each other.

There is 0 WRONG with trying to look good or sexy or whatever....unless it's taken to an unhealthy level. You are a very pretty woman. Take my word for it.....you already look WAY good.