are yal around each other pretty much all day?

maybe it's as simple as needing a break from each other, followed by some heart-felt talks about what this relationship means to both of you, where you want it to go, and where you want your life to go.

i've been married to my wife for coming up on 4 years now (although we've been together before for nearly a year, and known each other for about 9 years now) we don't really have sex that much either, but (as far as i know) it's more of a mutual thing. i don't know why, but over the past year or so my sexual drive has just became next to non-existant...

but you don't seem to be that way, any reason why she doesn't want sex? i mean have you actually asked her past "i'm not in the mood"? are you close in other ways? in my years of marriage i've noticed one thing, and that is that two things usually lead to sex... really big fights, or spending alot fo close time (watching movies, snuggling etc)... perhaps you just need to warm her up first, so to speak? have you tried?

what are all the reasons you are not happy with the relationship (you said it's not just sex, btw, get used to the nagging thing... it's gonna happen with pretty much anyone atleast in my experience) are the things that make you unhappy, fixable?

any route you choose, should start with both of yal sitting down and talking, tho.

i can almost garuntee even if you decide to split up, even if both of you decide it's for the best, it will feel like a mistake at first, since the two of you have been together for so long. which is really why you need to sit down and talk to her about it. a relationship just doesn't happen, you have to work at it and make it work, but if both parties aren't ready to do so, the relationship is pointless, IMHO.