5 year relationship over?

[palerider7777]

so how did you break up with her? did you just sit her down and drop it on her? how did it feel to be alone after being with someone for that long? i think i am more nervous about being alone than anything else.

it's real hard it's like ur life has ended depends on u can take up to a year to really move on.that was ur life for so long and if u have kids together it's that much harder so just know thats once u get ur head clear ur gonna be like wtf was i waitin for damn lol

[palerider7777]

once again i appreciate all the words of wisdom i get on here...yeah my girl is in florida right now, visiting her family. i'm hoping this week apart will help things out a lot. i'm definitely going to sit her down for a serious talk though when she gets back. that is the only solution i can see right now to our problems. if we can't work them out, then we are done. i can't waste any more of my life not being with someone i am truly happy with. its just going to be so hard though if we do break up because we have so much stuff together. we have 2 cats, one dog, a bunch of furniture and appliances. all of that stuff is both of ours. i guess i should just worry about trying to fix our relationship first huh?

first off if u and her are havin problems u can bet ur ass she's not saying anything good about u to her folks and they are gonna only hear her side of things and that will only make them side with her and thats gonna spark there thoughts on u and her to help back up what she already feels inside u get the picture...

ps when a couple is having trouble with there relationship, the worst thing u can do is tell family, as they will always have to put there 2 cents in. and sometimes it's not what u want to hear as ur not over that person, and it might work out but yours/her family don't know that person the way u do, and most of the time they only hear yours/her side of things. and that puts a neg image on that other person. and if u do end up working it out ur family don't respond well to it. u get the drift

[jacked420]

her family already doesn't like me that much anyways! luckily we don't have any kids together, but we do have pets, and they are basically just like kids. she gets home tomorrow, and we are definitely going to have a very long discussion. hopefully she is willing to work on some things, or our future isn't looking too bright.

[beachguy in thongs]

so how did you break up with her? did you just sit her down and drop it on her? how did it feel to be alone after being with someone for that long? i think i am more nervous about being alone than anything else.

We decided, together, to move on. We stayed roommates until I met someone else, because I can't afford to live on my own. The loneliness was filled with the pursuit of another girl.

That's why you have to be best friends with women.

[angry nomad]

Hey buddy, key words, "I am a pussy." Yours not mine. I was in a long term relationship with an absolute bitch. Four years (18-22). Why did I stay with her? Because I was a pussy. I was a coward, too afraid to be alone, to be without a girlfriend. (The first three years of high school, I only had one girlfriend, and for six weeks. I was very insecure.)

It was very painful to break up with her. I cried for six months, which is when she got married, then I refused to cry, and moved on.

I learned to be independent instead of codependent. I learned how to be confident without being an asshole.

Ugh, that girl was such a selfish bitch, but I didn't realize it at the time.

Once you learn how not to be a pussy, a lot more girls will be attracted to you. Here is some unsolicited advice.

-Stand and sit up straight, and stick your chest out a little. If you have bad posture, you will probably feel like you are thrusting your chest out, but you are probably just sitting up straight.

-Speak from your gut, instead of your nose.

-Get contacts.

-trim your facial hair or shave.

-Pay for a nicer haircut.

-Wear cologne.

-Dress up when you go out.

-Smile and look people in the eye when you talk to them.

If you do this, and she doesn't like it, you will still get more attention from girls.

Be more confident.



-Tell her that you want to fuck her. You love fucking her. She turns you on. If that doesn't work, I would just say dump her. Sex is a big part of a relationship. You aren't married, and you don't have kids. You are young. If the sex sucks, and has been sucking, a lot of guys would've dumped her by now. But, try just being up front, and tell her you want to fuck her. But, if she doesn't give you head... ah just dump her.

Just my opinion

[palerider7777]

it's hard to let go of steady pussy, i know it's hard but when steady becomes not so steady or it's such a hassle to even bring it up then she is not in the relationship like u r. she's in a diffrent place in her head, and is just waitin for the next paycheck to come along to get her out of there.i'd give her a chance and talk to her 1 time not bring it up every time but 1 time and lay it all out there and see how she responds.and btw girls don't like u harping on shit but u harp because she's holding something in and u know it and when that happens the best thing is to get out while u still have ur balls. if she don't leap into ur arms and seems happy u talked about it then dump her quick my guess she will be a lil stand offish as in she don't want to open up about anything im guessing someone else is is hittin it as she would be wanting sex at some point. i know girls can do without it longer than guys but to not want it at all somethings up u can believe that.and if she loved u she would want to be makin u happy not shutin u down every time just remember that.

ps a woman can make or break a man a good, loving, kind, woman that wants to make u happy will lift ur spirit up and make u want to do better a woman that is'nt 100% for u will only bring u down and will kill ur spirit so remember this when lookin for a mate

[jacked420]

so my girl got back from a week in Florida a couple nights ago...and now she is like a completely different person. she has been nothing but pleasent, super sweet, and even pretty horny. this really throws a monkey wrench into my plans. i know i still need to sit her down and explain to her that our relationship is in trouble, but it's going to be hard if she keeps acting like this...i guess i just have to wait for the first time she starts being a bitch again huh?

[action.420]

woman are impossible to figure out...

[slipknotpsycho]

so my girl got back from a week in Florida a couple nights ago...and now she is like a completely different person. she has been nothing but pleasent, super sweet, and even pretty horny. this really throws a monkey wrench into my plans. i know i still need to sit her down and explain to her that our relationship is in trouble, but it's going to be hard if she keeps acting like this...i guess i just have to wait for the first time she starts being a bitch again huh?

seems like what i said is the problem... yal just needed a break from each other...

and no i wouldn't do it when it first starts... i'd wait til it hit the point it was at before she left... since basicly everythings changed now to how you wanted it... why ruin a good thing...

[jacked420]

seems like what i said is the problem... yal just needed a break from each other...

and no i wouldn't do it when it first starts... i'd wait til it hit the point it was at before she left... since basicly everythings changed now to how you wanted it... why ruin a good thing...

yeah thanks a lot man, you've definitely posted some good advice on here for me, and i appreciate it...i think i will do what you said. these last couple days have been great, we haven't gotten along this well in a very long time...but if things even begin to look sour again, i am not hesitating this time to take some action...