Quote Originally Posted by Not An Addict
Absolutely nothing..
I lost someone who I was about to marry, she died a year before the marriage.

It feels like you have given everything that is you to that woman, and that you have nothing you will ever be able to give to someone else. I remember that feeling very well.

But then I slowly started realizing that she gave herself to me as well. And that changed who I am, and made me a better person. I started seeing that even if there wasnt anything for me to give, I could work on building myself back up to be able to give something to someone again.

She has changed your life forever. Your life is different then it was before you met her, and its for the better. Its allowed you to learn to love, and care, and expanded who you are in ways you may not even see yet. You need to take the time to explore yourself again, find out who you really are now, and go from there. I am willing ot wager that you will find a new but familiar person in there, and thats the start.

Most of all, dont allow yourself to get caught up in regret for what has happened. It is sad, devestating even perhaps, but do not regret it. To regret it would mean that you wish all those wonderful times had never happened, and those memories are to be charished. They hurt like a bitch right now, but over time, they will become things that you look back upon fondly, if not maybe a little sadly. Also, your time with her is going to lead you to new paths you wouldnt be on otherwise. One day, you will find someone who you love deeply, and wish to make your wife, and you will be so happy that you dont even know what to do with it all. And you will have gotten to that point in life because of everything that happened in your past, good and bad.

Its a rough process, and my best advice is to stick around friends, lean on them for moral and emotional support when you need it... if they are true friends, they will already be handing those two things out hand over fist for you, because they care. Dont regret, dont look back upon anything with regret, and take this time to rediscover who you are on the inside. I know I found a completely different person when I took the time to look.

Chin up my man, life is full of ups and downs, and its a testament to a persons strong will that they can pick themselves back up again after getting knocked flat on their asses. Take your time standing back up if you need, but dont ever look away from that goal of getting back up and trying it again.
imitator Reviewed by imitator on . Feeling like shit, gonna vent. I've been with this girl since we were like 10, and we were always really solid, fully in love. We're 18 now and broke up over the summer. Since then, she doesn't make an effort to talk to me, or even respond to my calls for that matter. Found out tonight shes having sex with some other guy, and I know this is all stupid and retarded for you guys to read, but fuck. I don't know what to do, it feels like I'm insane now. I can't even explain, nor do I want to try. I pretty much expect the Rating: 5