Would like some advice please...

[stinkyattic]

she has some real issues when it comes to guys and dating and stuff. So there could be a million reasons for why she's acted like this,!

NONE of those reasons are good. As a woman who has carried her share of emotional baggage in her life, take it from me:
SHE'S GOT TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE!!!
You haven't found out where it came from, but you are ALREADY, after only dating a short time, seeing its manifestation.... wait until she gets MORE comfortable around you... it will be like the dam had collapsed....

[GHoSToKeR]

Hmmm... I guess I know what you mean. She hasn't been close to anyone for a long time, couldn't even kiss a guy, until me... Or maybe that was all bullshit too? Argh!!

My problem is though, she's kind of made it clear that she doesn't want to see me anymore.. So how do I go about finding out what happened and trying to get her to be honest about why she ended it? Maybe then I can convince her to stay with me.. I'm not gonna beg, obviously, but I'd like to give it a try,

[beachguy in thongs]

Take it from a guy...

Wait, that started out wrong.

Just don't bury your head in the sand.

[DebuteMachine23]

Hmmm... I guess I know what you mean. She hasn't been close to anyone for a long time, couldn't even kiss a guy, until me... Or maybe that was all bullshit too? Argh!!

My problem is though, she's kind of made it clear that she doesn't want to see me anymore.. So how do I go about finding out what happened and trying to get her to be honest about why she ended it? Maybe then I can convince her to stay with me.. I'm not gonna beg, obviously, but I'd like to give it a try,

When ever your thoughts wonder to her, just tune it out. Shes not worth your mental health man. Rejection hurts, and time is the only remedy. (And weed.)

[GHoSToKeR]

Yeah, I've been trying to.. It's tough tho! And yeah weed is the best fuckin' remedy!

Man, I dunno, I still really like her.. And I've convinced myself that she only acted like a twat to me 'cause she's scared of commitment or something. I'm determined to get the truth out of her, whether she likes it or not! I need peace of mind! Lol

Thanks for your replies, guys and gals.. Any more would be welcomed!

[napolitana869]

are you sure she's 33 and not 15? Because thats how shes acting

[Mr. TBAGU 420]

Hey man, i read your message and deeply felt it cause i have been through that situation before and it sucks balls no doubt. All you can do is keep trying for her if you REALLY like her and are falling for her as bad as you say you are. Let her know that age doesn't matter to you, that it's who the person is, not how old they are. Tell her how you feel about her again and let her know, reassure her on this. If you do all that and she still blows you off or seems weird then the best thing might be to just walk away.. as hard as that is sometimes. I hope my advice helps you and let me know if you get it worked out homie.:thumbsup:

[GHoSToKeR]

napolitana, haha! You're about the 20th person who's said that! It's true, but I already know that she's immature when it comes to relationships.. But you're right, she isn't acting her age! Shit, she's 13 years older than me, she should act it..

Mr TBAGU, thanks bro! You're right aswell, I'm going to keep trying for her, but if she doesn't respond or doesn't give me a straight answer or whatever, then I'll leave it.. If she ever changes her mind, she'll know how to contact me!

Well I sent her an email telling her what I think and feel.. I wasn't insulting or anything, just pretty honest.. I told her that I'm willing to wait for her if she's not ready to commit at the moment, even if she just wants to be friends for now that's cool with me because usually she's a really nice, friendly person! I also said how age olny matters if you let it, and that whether she's fallen for another guy, or scared of committing to me, or whatever, that I'll be able to handle it, I just want to know the truth. Do you think that was the right way to go????

Anyway, there's nothing I can do now but wait til she gets back from France and see if she replies, if she contacts me at all, and what she says.

Thanks again

[snowblind]

its beensaid, but i thought i would reiterate it using the words of the great kenny rodgers


You got to know when to hold em, know when to fold em,
Know when to walk away and know when to RUN !!!!!!!!!!!!

[beachguy in thongs]

Well I sent her an email telling her how to commit at the moment, even if she just wants to be friends to me, or whatever, I just want to know the truth. Do you think that was the right way to go????

Stoker, honestly, the ball's in her court, now.

Nice pass.