Would like some advice please...

[slipknotpsycho]

Slip, not as far as I know, dude.. The way I see it, she's been single for a long time until I came along, and I just think now that she's got the confidence back to start dating, she's met this guy and decided she likes him more than me, so I don't mean anything to her anymore. I really hope that's not the case, but it probably is..

stinkyattic, I know what you're saying. Everyone's been saying to me "it must be cool for you to be with an older woman, but why the fuck is she with a 20 year old?".. Lol, she has some real issues when it comes to guys and dating and stuff. So there could be a million reasons for why she's acted like this, or maybe she's just being honest and she is a bitch?

ganjzilla, good point bro.. To be that scared of commitment that you run away the moment someone refers to you as a 'girlfriend' of someone is fucking lame ass.. I mean the night before we'd been talking about our relationship and stuff and she pretty much referred to herself as my girlfriend! lol

lagstronaut, thanks for the advice bro, but I doubt I'll ever be in that position with her again. Not only has she blown me off in the most heartless fuckin' way possible, but she's acting like she hasn't done anything wrong and can't understand now why I'm angry! So I'd find it really hard to be friends with her or be close to her again! Since this happened I've been going through hell, not just because I'm that hung up on her, but because of the way she fucked me over too. I dunno if I could put myself through that again..

hippy lettuce, Lol thanks! Yeah you're right, the more I think about it the more she seems like a really imature head-case.. I wish I could just go "fuck her!" and not even think about her again, and it's really difficult keeping myself from phoning her again and again.. But I'm sure there's some other reason for her acting like this towards me.. Maybe she is just scared of commitment and she panicked? I dunno..

Thanks for your replies guys! It's cool being able to talk about this with you!

well just watch yourself dude, it still is your decision what to do... and if you don't think what i said is the case then... well simply put.. FUCK OFF! no i'm just kidding, but reading back, actually, considering your new input... ganjzilla does seem to have a very valid/likely point...

just tread lightly, don't let a girl get you down or anything.... just watch out for yourself... with the turn of events that happened, (although i'm almost always against selfishness, and am very giving) right now the most important person in the equasion is you... you gave, and she's seemed to of retracted from giving back, putting you in priority.. there's no sensible reason to give your heart to someone when all they want to do is step on it.

[GHoSToKeR]

Lol thanks Slip buddy.. I know you're all right.. I still can't help hoping that she gets in touch in a few days (she's on Holiday in France for the weekend).. I would be so fuckin happy if she got in touch and wanted to see me, but at the same time I know it probably won't happen. I just can't believe that she is this much of a bitch without a good reason, because it means either she was decieving me all along or something, I dunno.. Aww

[beachguy in thongs]

Okay guys, I was just wondering if I could get some advice..

So, okay.. A few weeks ago I met this woman.

Stop. Ghostoker, I once felt isolated, for you, when I looked up Jersey on the map.

Go for the girl!

beachguy: Okay, I read the rest.

Still, you like her. Go for her. You missed your chance to stop her when you saw them slow-dance. Either way, you saw her, first.

[GHoSToKeR]

Lol beachguy! Yeah I know you're right, but she still just tossed me aside without even telling me why, and then laughed at me when I got upset! Should I really go after her - no matter how much I like her - if she can treat people like that?

[beachguy in thongs]

She could've had a moment of un-clarity. She could've been testing you. She could've been under the influence of a deadly intoxicant.

Just keep trying and she'll let you know when you've run out of lines.

Good luck, Stoker.

[GHoSToKeR]

Good point. But what scares me the most is that I go after her and she was thinking perfectly clearly! That would be a whole lot worse because it would mean she lied to me all along, acted like someone she's not, and actually enjoyed doing what she did to me! It's hard to carry on trusting people when you're totally honest with someone and then they fuck you up that bad!

[beachguy in thongs]

Don't worry about what she did to you. When's it's all over, you won't be with her, anyways.

Or, maybe, you will...

[GHoSToKeR]

Argh, are you trying to confuse me, beachguy? You're so good at it.. Lol

I hope that there's a decent explanation for her behaviour - that she's not as harsh and cold as she made out; that she's not interested in another guy; that she actually does still want to see me; that she just got scared of committing to me... If that's the case I'll happily take her back because I'm crazy about her and maybe I can help her work through the issues she has with relationships and commitment...

But if that's not the case, and she did just ditch me for that other guy (who, by the way, is an older friend of mine and the same age as me), or she was just lying to me all along, it's gonna be so fucking hard to cope with! Seriosuly I hadn't felt this way about someone for ages....

Edit: Aww beachguy, you missed me, you really missed me? Lol I missed you too buddy!! :P

[beachguy in thongs]

Really, either way, she'll have to choose you over any other guy she meets. I don't know, but, it could be a head game, playing hard to get. Maybe, you're doubting yourself, as in if you'd really want to be with a girl, who can't see you, right away. Or, fall in love, head over heels.

[GHoSToKeR]

Yeah, maybe... I guess there's no point beating myself up over the whole thing, I just have to wait and see what she says when she gets back on Sunday or Monday. She might not even bother contacting me, or she might contact me and tell me she wants to be friends, or she might run into my arms, crying and apologising for being so stupid. Who knows? I'll have to wait and see... 'Til then I'm gonna get baked!