Become her friend first. Get over that awkward stage when she doesn't really know you, and how you react to certain situations. Let her see you in many diffrent aspects of your personality before you let her know. Its alot easier to like someone when you feel you know them. That is one of the biggest sticking points for me. You can seem like the nicest guy in the world, but the fact that we don't know what triggers your anger or violence is very scary. I mean after all the horror stories you hear, you can't blame us for bein cautious. Dont assume that because we made a reference to sex means we wanna sleep with you. Alot of women, myself included, are very open about their sexuality and are brazen enough to talk about it. Don't try to impress her by telling tales of your sexual adventures and misadventures, if you come off as a dog in the slightest bit, turns most women off. Do Not Ever try to force yourself on her because you convinced yourself "she might like it". but for Goddesses sake, dont be a pussy and wait till she's expressed feelings for someone else, or tell her on the phone because youre afraid of rejection in person. If she hints that shes not intrested, dont ask why, we're tryin to be nice about it. Do ya really wanna know? And last but definitely, not least, treat her like a human being, not like some piece of meat that you just cant wait to sink your teeth into..... oh and no games..... playing games is so high school. peace- Hilder