It's pretty common, sweetie. The fact that you can masturbate to orgasm is good! When the hubby and I "get it on", I frequently "prime the pump" before hand. I take a nice warm bath and masturbate to climax. (The hubby is going to be 66 this year, so he has slowed down a bit- me?, I'm the "Energizer Bunny".) I take a few minutes to settle down and then jump into bed with an ultra-sensitive clit. ( I hope I'm not grossing you gals out too much with my tales of "senior sex"! It does happen, ya know! Check out Yahoo Health News- had an article about it just today.) Climax is a habit- keep doing it and your body learns it. Keep trying, and may all your orgasms be multiple! - Granny:hippy: