Quote Originally Posted by higher4hockey
my parents got divorced when i was younger. one thing they did that drove me bonkers was talk about the other one to me. don't do that.


sorry that had to happen to you. sometimes bad things happen to good people.

OMG I am so happy I wasnt the only one that thought it was retarded of them to do that.
I hated when my dad clled my mom a home wrecker or my mom called my dad a low life..
Sad thing is it kind of made me grow up to expect very little of both my parents.
My parents divorced when I was 5 and they put me through hell at that age. My dad was very violent and my mom was very independent and had no problem walking out on my dad. Not to say she didnt have a good reason to walk out but she didn't take me with her and well my dad then wanted to keep me from her (I went almost an entire year without seeing or talking to my mother.) causing a strain in all three of our relationships.
I think your a very strong woman for wanting him to stay in your house after the bomb he dropped on you upon your return from holiday. I honestly think this would be the wrong thing to do. you have to move on with you and your daughters lives, don't stop her from seeing her father when she wants or spending the night at his place (if it is sutable for a child) when he moves out. Don't push him out of her life but I dont think you should keep him so close to yours.
But that's just MHO.