Gosh, TX Girl, I'm so sorry to hear this news. That breaks my heart, for both you and your daughter.

I have two friends who are divorced very amicably, and so I know it is possible, but I think it's the exception rather than the rule. They both went through some rough patches before reaching the amicable phase. In my friend Penny's case, she and her ex live literally behind one another, a housing arrangement they deliberately established so she and her former husband could share custody easily and with as little upset to the kids as possible. In the other case, my friend lives in the same neighborhood as her ex. She and he shared living quarters for a time after they were divorced, but it was awkward and unpleasant, both because of the resentments over the divorce and also again when they both wanted to begin seeing others socially. They're happier in two separate households now, but I'm not sure the same thing can be said of the kids.

Good luck to you, Tx Girl. I know this must be a heartbreaking time for you. Is there any hope he'll come to his senses and do what's best for your daughter? Maybe do some counseling before throwing it all down the drain?