What is wrong with me?

[justinsane]

i think that babe is totally smokin.. but i do believe its a case of infatuation.. i mean.. when i saw Neil Young in concert i loved him too... but here i am, the empty shell of a man who stands before you today..

definitely a 10/10!

[connector_robot]

This honestly is exactly why celebrities have so many stalkers...

People get the idea that talking to them once means they're destined for marriage and children.

LOL..and I think you'd have the effort if first you had a defense. But you know we're right. :thumbsup:

You're the reason why I don't have the effort. Read my whole fucking post, idiot. It's not based on one 5 minute convorsation. I don't think you're right.

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

Well ConnectoRobot, if you say you're in love I'll take your word for it, but I think you have to admit to yourself it's largely infatuation as well. Infatuation can still carry a strong emotional component. The difference though, is that love, real love, is not about thinking she's perfect, intelligent, beautiful, all-around wonderful, or thinking she's perfect for you. Love is something that happens between two people who interact with one another and get to know each other intimately, and feel a deep connection only the two of them share. You two have yet to share this.

Even so I could still believe you are in "love" in a manner of speaking, in that you've allowed a 2 year infatuation to consume your thougths to the point where you're brain has invented an intricately developed relationship between the two of you. I think you've basically conditioned your brain through prolonged repetetive fantasy, to develope a loving relationship psychologically, where you can no longer tell the difference between fantasy and reality.

I think it's time to face up to the hard fact that you need to reject this delusional mindstate and learn to release yourself. Clinging is after all, the greatest cause of suffering. The only way you'll alleviate yours is to let go. How? no easy answer, but I'd say practice some meditation to train your mind in how to let go, and talk to a therapist if necessary. Just stop feeding the beast.

[thcbongman]

The way I see it there are two ways to see it.

You can listen to everyone here on the the truth of the matter.

Or you can go out there and try to get her, despite the incredible odds stacked against you. But you'll be satisfied knowing you tried, or in heaven if you are somehow successful.

Option 3, doing nothing about it except letting your emotions play with you isn't acceptable. This is one of those either/or situations.

[khronik]

You're the reason why I don't have the effort. Read my whole fucking post, idiot. It's not based on one 5 minute convorsation. I don't think you're right.

Yeah, that sucks. Really, it does, wanting what you know damn well you can't have. Still, not only is she way out of your league, but she's like 5 or 6 years older than you. Shit, dude, that alone would be hard enough.

Every time you have these thoughts, try and tell yourself "this is a problem with me, and as long as I have this problem I won't be happy." Visualize this obsessive part of yourself as a disease, a cancerous tumor that you need to purge from yourself. Try and isolate it from the rest of you.

You want a quick fix? See a hypnotist. I'm serious. They're often very effective at making you think differently, if you are open to that.

[connector_robot]

Thanks for the replies guys. I feel like I need to try and let go, but I can't find the willpower within me to acutally try and let go. I wish I could, believe me. I hate loving her, it's terrible, but I can't help it.

[connector_robot]

Well ConnectoRobot, if you say you're in love I'll take your word for it, but I think you have to admit to yourself it's largely infatuation as well. Infatuation can still carry a strong emotional component. The difference though, is that love, real love, is not about thinking she's perfect, intelligent, beautiful, all-around wonderful, or thinking she's perfect for you. Love is something that happens between two people who interact with one another and get to know each other intimately, and feel a deep connection only the two of them share. You two have yet to share this.

Even so I could still believe you are in "love" in a manner of speaking, in that you've allowed a 2 year infatuation to consume your thougths to the point where you're brain has invented an intricately developed relationship between the two of you. I think you've basically conditioned your brain through prolonged repetetive fantasy, to develope a loving relationship psychologically, where you can no longer tell the difference between fantasy and reality.

I think it's time to face up to the hard fact that you need to reject this delusional mindstate and learn to release yourself. Clinging is after all, the greatest cause of suffering. The only way you'll alleviate yours is to let go. How? no easy answer, but I'd say practice some meditation to train your mind in how to let go, and talk to a therapist if necessary. Just stop feeding the beast.

By the way, I do feel like she is the perfect person for me. I'm sure that sounds rediculous to all of you, but I'm serious. I realize that feeling isn't exactly mutual though...

[Its a Plant]

I realize that feeling isn't exactly mutual though...

You can say that again...

But I think even you realizing it means you're on the right path back to normalcy as far as I'm concerned. :jointsmile:

[snowblind]

the difference between unrequited love and real love is that real love is recipricated.

i think it is highly unlikely that she personally answers all the mail from her website. so the likely hood it wasn't even her.

if you spoke to her thats wikid, but as she didnt ask for your number, ask you to stay more or take you out for dinner.

her public life and private life are two different things and the personal life that is created is just a persona to ensure she has work, people by her stuff and keep her in a shit hot lifestyle.

your basing your love on infatuation and i guess she represents other things to you. its weird that you feel unfaithfull, cus you havn't done anything with her.

the choice is yours and whilst its easy for you to get on the defensive. look at it from our perspective.

honestly dude, we all feel for you. but it will never happen.

cut yourself off.

concentrate on your girlfriend

get a new one

or just keep crackin off to her infront of your monitor

its your life

snow

[Reefer Rogue]

Exactly, love for a human being is a two way thing, it must be shared by both people. You can force your love on inanimate objects or food but not people, or animals, without consequences. Give her a call though, if you can actually talk to her and tell her how you feel, will she remember you? Imo, you should be happy with who you have and i truly believe this to be a mistake that you would actually risk losing someone you have for this supermodel.