What is wrong with me?

[connector_robot]

Alright, this has been really hard for me, because I feel slightly rediculous for even thinking this way.

I am a 20 year old man, and I've had a beautifull girlfreind for 3 years, and I think I can say we love each other. She is beautifull, nice, very smart, and has a great sense of humor. Here comes my problem - I love someone else, and I have for about 2 years now. More than ever. I love this person more than I've ever loved anyone in my entire life. More than any of my family, more than my beautiful girlfreind. And it just so happens that this girl is Alessandra Ambrosio. A Victoria's Secret supermodel.

Now, before you start thinking I'm rediculous for loving someone I probably doesn't know, I'll explain how, and why I know and love her. She is the nicest person - she talks with her fans on her website, she stays connected with them, and she is extremly nice to them when she meets them. I would know - I met her earlier this year in New York at a signing for A/X. I was able to stand up there with her for a little over 5 minutes chatting with her. She is intelligent, amazingly nice, down to earth, and beautifull. On her website, she has maybe 20 videos of her going about her everyday life, going to work, and all that, videos in which you can see her personality - which is the perfect one for me. She is fun and playfull, smart and nice, and the most beautiful person in the entire world. I cry myself to sleep sometimes [yeah, I'm a guy, and I cry myself to sleep], because I know the chance of me ever being with her is very slim. Everytime I see a picture of her, I feel my insides just turn out of a mixture of sadness and eleation at seeing her beautifull smile. I don't know how I can stress the fact anymore - I love her so much. More than anything. I didn't know humans were capable of such love. She is all I think about.

Nothing makes me happier than seeing her happy, yet nothing makes me more sad.

But here's the thing - I can't help but feel unfaithfull to my girlfreind for loving some other girl far more than her, to think about someone else more than her. I feel like I need to break up, because of my "unfaithfulness", but at the same time, obviously, I don't want to, because she is the next best thing that ever happened to me, behind Alessandra.

What should I do? What is wrong with me?

connector_robot Reviewed by connector_robot on 08-21-2007. What is wrong with me? Alright, this has been really hard for me, because I feel slightly rediculous for even thinking this way. I am a 20 year old man, and I've had a beautifull girlfreind for 3 years, and I think I can say we love each other. She is beautifull, nice, very smart, and has a great sense of humor. Here comes my problem - I love someone else, and I have for about 2 years now. More than ever. I love this person more than I've ever loved anyone in my entire life. More than any of my family, more Rating: 5

[snicklefritz1825]

Um you are not in love you are highly infatuated. She is a Victoria Secret model so keep on dreaming. The chances of you hooking up with this chick are one in a million. I wish Orlando Bloom would love me but it ain't gonna happen. So get your head out of the clounds and pay more attention to a girl who knows you and wants to be by your side.

[KingsBlend420]

Yea snicklefritz you can't really tell a person he isn't in love. Connector, I'm really unsure about what you are supposed to do about your situation. Maybe you should go and try to meet her again. Even though you love her, it might be for the best to try to put it behind you.

[Its a Plant]

I dunno man, maybe it's love at first sight (if it even exists)...but I highly doubt it unless you had some sort of super meaningful 5-min conversation ONE time at a signing where she meets tons of other fans and probably has close to the exact conversation with them...

The fact that you...cry yourself to sleep at night...thinking about her is a bit creepy man. Sure you know things about her, but that's only what her website puts up. If she's the next best thing that's happened to you, I think you're REALLY putting too much into your ONE run-in.

You might LOVE looking at her smile, but you don't love her as a person. You don't even know her man. Again, if she by chance told you her whole life story in those 5 min, I'll gladly admit I'm wrong.

If you did give up your current g/f for some sort of deranged road trip to NY to find her and propose, I'd say you've gone mad.

Lust, infatuation, and love. All different things in their own right. You seem to be affected by the first two, that's all. :jointsmile:

[ghosty]

yeah man, i "love" jessica alba.. but but I think you're better off getting over it... the crying yourself to sleep is a little creepy, and sad. sounds like more of an infatuation/obsession... looking deeper, perhaps you're reason is that you're unsatisfied with something in your current relationship, if that's the case, perhaps try looking into just what it is and fixing it, if not well then try to meet someone a little more attainable with similar personality traits.... there's too many fish in the sea to put all your dreams into being able to one day bang a supermodel... we all want to man, it just isnt gonna happen to 95% of us

[connector_robot]

You guys still don't fully understand what I'm saying, and I don't have the effort to explain.

[DebuteMachine23]

Primal Instincts... its a bitch. Your man meters are blowing off the scale saying shes the best woman you've ever seen. But whats more important in the long run. The chick next to you, or you thinking with your other head?

[Its a Plant]

This honestly is exactly why celebrities have so many stalkers...

People get the idea that talking to them once means they're destined for marriage and children.

LOL..and I think you'd have the effort if first you had a defense. But you know we're right. :thumbsup:

[ghosty]

I can see the reasons for the attraction I mean she's really hot, but... not to be an ass... you may even be like god's gift to ladies as far as looks, but you still don't stand an actual chance... It's not healthy trying to think of your chances in reality with this woman, fantasize all you want, there's nothing unhealthy about that, but be happy with the woman you got, or move on and find another woman who will keep you satisfied.

[MadSativa]

Oh damn you know that girl shes hot but didnt you say u were married? or 3 years huh well I dont know what to tell you ??