Your mom is just a dumbass, i'd not listen to her. Your dad seems nice, but he wants to be a cop. Stay away from him too. You need to get a fucking job. Save up money. And move. Maybe move into an apartment with a couple friends. Stop bitching and do something. Once you are moved out keep in touch with the family, but keep the weed discreet. Hopefully if you continue to save money, you can move into a house on your own.