Parents spazzin on me...

[ChronicJoint]

you dont have it that bad actually. if you dont read the story (i just noticed how i kinda went on my own rant, haha) atleast read the opinions i give you at the bottom (the last 2 chunks of text)

when i got caught (i was 15 at the time) i didnt have the chance to move out and my mom and step-dad were on a cruise at the time. so i went to go stay with my sisters in their house for a while. one of them did not care at all, the other still smoked but she was being a HUGE hypocrit. they both smoked ciggarettes and didnt want me to tell my parents about it, but they kept bleeding the beans about me to anyone they saw. the one kept bitching at me saying i was ruining my life. so i eventually told the one to stop being such an ass about everything and if she wants me to keep her secrets she better learn to keep mine as well. then i got a call from my brother (navy) and he pretty much calls me a terrorist because "all the drug money goes to south america, the south americans buy guns and KILL USA SOLDIERS!!!". so i get on a plane to fly home [older brother is there(i was on vacation at an old friends house)] and i get there and he asks for my wallet cellphone and ipod. so i ask him to show me the power of attorney my mom gave him and he gets in a piss fit because i know my rights better than he does. and he tells me to go to my room. i refused (i had 2 projects to finish up before school started again) and he grabbed me by my neck and threw me into the stairs and stole all my stuff (wallet cellphone and ipod, i didnt have any weed) and tore my room apart looking for all my "drugs tobacco pipes and lighters", ended up not finding any cuz i was the king of hiding things. then he came down in a pissy rage because he found nothing and continued to throw me around in an attempt to get me to go get them for him. i told him if he didnt stop i was going to call the cops on him. he eventually stopped (at this point i had cuts all over me[small, not big] and my shirt is torn.....im in tears because ive had a hard time breathing as ive been choked pretty much) so i call the police. the officer arrives and talks to him first. and comes and talks to me and pretty much says "sounds like you overreacted, stop smoking pot"...........that further reinforced my HATE for the government and police force. they were supposed to serve and protect and they didnt do shit. they inhaled his huge breath of bullshit lies and beleived every word of it. then my brother left a few days later to go back to his house for work. and i waited a week until my mom and step dad got back from their cruise. and when they got home i got everything that could resemble fun taken away. i was pretty much locked in my room until the next summer. all i was allowed to do was go to school come home do homework eat and sleep.

that probably explains why i only talk to my one sister and avoid talking to anyone else from my family. that was a few years ago though so im slightly less pissed off about it now. just be happy you have what you have right now and start saving your cash. life isnt about buying drugs and alcohol its about paying the oil companies. you pay them first then you pay whoever else you need then you buy what you want.

oh i almost forgot about them forcing their beleifs onto you. tell them you think god is a bunch of bullshit and your going athiest. i dunno whatll happen after that because my family wasnt a bunch of loonatics about that stuff, but if i was in your situation thats what id do.

[Lankan Lion]

uh, don't wanna sound harsh or anything but you're 18, and it's your parents house. That's pretty much all that matters. If they don't want any marijuana in their home then you really don't have any right to disobey them. That's the price you pay for living there. If you can't live with that, then you need to figure out how to put some money together and move out.

No idea what that shit about church has to do with anything. I'm guessing your moms faith is important to her so shitting all over it probably isn't going to get you too far. Explain to her that while you respect her beliefs and her dedication to her faith, it's not something that connects with you and it's not really part of your life or who you are. If she can't accept that, then again...you'll probably have to move out.

You're 18 and while that legally entitles you to a whole new world of freedom, it also means that legally, your parents really have no reason to put up room and board for you other than the fact they love you. Be grateful for that and just deal the hand you're given.

[Jadian21]

Yeah I'm going to agree with most of the rest of the posters here. You simply have to put up with the bullshit until you can do something about it (By this I mean move out, not smothering your parents while they sleep.)

I moved into a 1 bedroom apartment with 3 other people when I was 16 because I couldn't handle living with my folks anymore and we were all too broke to live on our own, but at least we had our freedom (well to us it felt like freedom.) Start saving money, try to get along with your parents the best you can in the meantime, and when you have things set up just bounce and say goodbye.

[blazed_babe]

um yeah dude, a lot of the other posters are right. you live in your parents house. as long as you living under their roof and they pay the bills, then you gotta respect their wishes until you can move out. sucks that you don't have a car and such or money to move out, and not to be a bitch, but hey dude, that's your own fault. you should have saved, so start saving now!!! if getting out of your parents house is reeeeeeally that important, then quit smoking and save that money to move out or fix up your car or something. maybe all your money isn't going to smoking, i dunno. but whatever it's going to, curb your spending on that and save the money!!!!

as for the religion being shoved down your throat...well, same thing happened to me when i still lived with my parents, then luckily i went off to school 5 hours away, and they couldn't do shit about it. but i still had to abide by a lot of their rules because they supported me financially. so recently, i was tired of putting up with their shit ( don't assume i'm being a whiny 20 year old, you don't know the whole story, if anyone wants to know i'll be glad to tell it) and so last saturday, i left. i just moved from their house in mississippi and then moved in with my boyfriend in maine i'm oh so happy, and i love it. yeah, i no longer receive any kind of financial support from my parents but man i'm so much happier and stress free. i've been struggling to make myself happy and my parents happy, and i felt like it was compromising who i am and who i want to be, so i just was like "i'm 20, i can make it on my own" so i cut myself off from them financially and just left

but man my parents were the same way about my smoking. i got caught a couple of years ago, and they flipped the fuck out, and my dad was kind of cool with it, because he was a stoner and did a lot of harder drugs when he was younger, he just didnt want me to smoke ever, and my mom believes all the propaganda bullshit. so i'm screwed there. and they don't know that i have continued to smoke and still do since i was caught a couple of years ago with their bullshit random drug test.

i love my parents so much, and they've taught me a lot. but it was time for me to move on and grow up and become responsible. so now i'm taking care of things myself.

anyways dude, just chill, and if you live under your parents roof and they pay the bills, then dude you should respect their wishes.

[Foskers]

I understand what you guys are saying...about the respect and whatnot...and for the most part I do. And yes my dad has been really cool about this. I never thought about my smoking in his house or around it could have jeopardized his police career. (He hopes to go the academy and become a full fledged officer.) I admit...I did not think about any of my actions in doing so, However. We only smoked at his house a total of like...3 times. at 3 in the morning. The chances of a cop driving by or ANYONE seeing at that time of day is simply ridiculous. And ever since then...they've started in with the pot and weed jokes on me...which I feel are somewhat abusive. Example:
"Hey Foskers, Did you (do this) or (do that)?"
Me:"Uhh..not I didn't get around to it...sorry."
"Ohh...I see...I guess you were to busy smoking pot or were stoned..."
Me:"..."

It seems that when I first posted this I was posting out of simple rage...But now that I am cooled down and maintaining a general dislike of them...I am thinking...I can work the "good boy" bit long enough to get out of here. I can do it because I did it ever since I was 10. Thanks anyways for your opinions and observances...though some were not what I wished to hear...it is the truth. I simply gotta suck it up and figure something out..

Thanks guys.

[Foskers]

Oh and another thing..someone mis understood me...at the time when dad gave me the car...I didn't have the $250 a week job...I was working at McDonald's...and they were giving me such shitty hours it was not even believable. I believe for around a whole month I worked 4 hours a week...on saturday....so his help was appreciated...He's just one of these guys who believe in working for everything you get. God damn southern traditions and religions...lol...

[Foskers]

Haha, dad bought me a car! It's the work of the Lord!

Haha... sorry.

Rough situation, Foskers. You should try more on your end to fix it, though. About the weed and shit anyway... the church thing... meh. You either believe or you don't. And if church isn't doing anything for you, nobody has a right to force feed it to you. After all, what was the reason this country was settled?

XD LOL...all religion is laughable to me. I can't tell you how many crippled and sick people go into this church and leave...EXACTLY the same way they went it. When I bring this point up to my mom she had this reply...
"It may be the lords wish for them to be like that..."

well...it seems to me that the lords wishes aren't what these people want or need...otherwise why would they bother praying for their disabilities to get better?
BECAUSE THEY ARE UNHAPPY WITH IT.
She just doesn't seem to grasp this...

[Foskers]

I took my kids to church with me every wednesday, and sunday,when I had them and if they had weed in the house and/or were driving while under the influence, I would have taken them to the police myself too. I will *NOT* put my livelyhood or my pension at risk by my kids doing something stoopid. FWIW, I did 22 years in the US Coast Guard (read this as FEDERAL LAW ENFORCEMENT). Both of my kids survived, and are doing well....one is starting her senior year in college on a full ride scholarship, the other one just started college.

You have 2 choices..... you can grow up, quit whining, and learn to respect your parents, and their wishes while living under their roof, or you can move out and make your own way, while you still think you know everything.

It isn't what you want to hear, but then again, lifes a bitch then you die.

If smoking is "stoopid" as you said..then why are you on a forum board? You yourself are risking your pension by posting on this board....I understand why you took your kids to church now...I neglected to look at your name the first time around. God damn southern bible belt...
I live in alabama...I know how it is...

[Matt the Funk]

Your mom is just a dumbass, i'd not listen to her. Your dad seems nice, but he wants to be a cop. Stay away from him too. You need to get a fucking job. Save up money. And move. Maybe move into an apartment with a couple friends. Stop bitching and do something. Once you are moved out keep in touch with the family, but keep the weed discreet. Hopefully if you continue to save money, you can move into a house on your own.

[Lankan Lion]

I understand what you guys are ]
And ever since then...they've started in with the pot and weed jokes on me...which I feel are somewhat abusive. Example:
"Hey Foskers, Did you (do this) or (do that)?"
Me:"Uhh..not I didn't get around to it...sorry."
"Ohh...I see...I guess you were to busy smoking pot or were stoned..."
Me:"..."

dude, speaking as the son of an alcoholic, calling that "somewhat abusive" is a slap in the face to anyone who's ever actually been abused as a child.

It's not abuse and I think you already know that you really have no grounds to complain. I guess if its therapeutic for you to vent here then more power to you, but otherwise you just kinda sound like your bitching about how unfair your life is.