Ever Just Feel Alone?

[420MissHighTimes420]

well after moving to a new city (only a hlaf hour away from home still) and having everyone go to college, including my boyfriend, and i live alone wen im used to having 2 sisters yeah increadbly

[GraziLovesMary]

Alone is what I know best, oddly enough. I dont really search out aloneness as it seems to find me often enough, and I have a hoppin social life already... I am still alone at night. But maybe its for the better, the night is when Im most productive. I can sleep when Im dead.

[birdgirl73]

Well I'm going through this stage in my life right now were i feel so alone. I feel as if no one loves me or even cares. Im single now and maybe it's just that. I want my ex back but i know she dosnt want me. Im not even sure how to let her go. I went to her work today and dropped off everything that ever ment anything to me in front of her door. I can no longer have her around i feel like it's killing me inside. I try to release my feelings but it doesn't seem to be working. Iv been working every day trying to keep myself busy. iv been partying talking to other people and it's not even working. She said she didnt want anything to dow ith me, so i just told her okay... At that moment hearing those words out of the persons mouth that i love.. I felt apart of me die inside.. okay well i have to go to work now..

OK, BlazinIt, I'm going to step out on a limb here and ask whether you're looking for someone on the outside to provide what really needs to be intrinsic validation you give yourself? I wonder that because I've read your stories about your ex's nasty treatment of you, and I tend to think that if you felt stronger and more confident in yourself, felt better about your life, and were more comfortable being on your own, you wouldn't be apt to feel so lonely or grieve about the passing of a relationship that was neither healthy nor happy.

I'm certain there are people who care deeply about you. You've heard from several very kind ones here. But my hunch tells me the person who needs to learn to care the most about is you yourself. When you start to like yourself, you'll be more comfortable being alone, will be able to reassure yourself that occasional phases of loneliness are temporary and normal, and you'll avoid hooking up with--and mourning for--romantic partners who don't treat you as well as you deserve.

[Sleepyhead1]

Hey dont be sad cause we love ya PLENTY of timwe have i felt the way u feel. But soon like all say the wounds do heel. Remember that even though when she talks to u she may seem mean or cold. But she too lays in her bed at night thinkin of you also. She may just feel as lonely as you. Right now i feel lonely but i keep thinkin that at least im alive to be with my lil baby girl. Look at it this way as long s your both stillalive then there is a chance unless u have done somethin soooooo terrible she cant forgive you. Time alone sucks but at times it wut we all need to gather our thoughts. You've heard the term if u love somethin then let it go, if it returns it was yours?? Listen to my fucked up story so maybe just you'll see that we all run into destructing heart break. I had been workin at tis place for 4 yrs. I wasnt gettin to spend time with my babys mom or my lil girl. i was going into work at 5am but not gettin home sumtime until midnite!!!!! Eventually one day those words came over the phone" Baby we need to talk" So i had to wait ALLLLLL day at work until i was done to come home and see wut i already knew it was. She broke up with me and it tore my heart apart. The worst thing was one 4 days later i was still so tore up i showed up at her house to jus talk!!! WRONG CHOICE cause there was ALREADY someone else in her bed.............. how ya think that made me feel? How would u feel??? For someone to say they'll always luv u but be sleepin with someone else b4 the week was up?!?!?!? i did the righ tthing and walked out b4 i did somethin i would regret. i was a mess for the longest, but my friends were there for me. They wouldnt let me wash my emotions away with chemicals etc. They stood behind me 100% and helped me heal and for that im grateful. Make sure u let ur friends help u out man. You got my su:rastaport hang in there!!!

[BlAzInIt4:20]

Birdgirl your completely right and i know thats my problem. Iv been working with myself and trying to better understand myself and accept my flaws. Iv done alot of soul searching and i have found that it dosnt matter what anyone else thinkns of me. And that im not alone their is always someone out their. People who care, people who love. This girl i was in the relationship with i relized it was jsut a stepping stone and that im holding myself out until i find the poerson i want the person that i dream of you get me? Why settle for less when i can just hold out for something better that will come along. I know she treated me like shit and iv relized this now, And i do not feel bad for leaving her ass. I do feel lonely at time's. But it's only because i miss that other person who lays on the other side of the bed. So thank you everyone for showing me people care. and telling me to stay strong..