Should I find her?

[geonagual]

Well, this will be my last thread, cause I need to get some shit done..haha

although, I am dating now, and one has told she loves me and wants to get serious...I cant stop thinking about the one that got away..
I know you all have heard the story of the girl that you cant get out of your head...you dream about...well, I have one of those...
When I was seperated from my wife about 6 years ago...I was with this girl for 2 years...I loved her more than anything...the sex was great...we would take weekend trips to New York, seattle, san diego, san Fran, Boston etc.etc....ride our bikes on the beach, amusement parks...all kinds of stuff..all while holding hands, kissing and being in love....but there was one thing that was bad...can you guess what? fighting...we would fight like you cant believe...then one time we were fighting and both of us said some stuff that
was very mean and hurtful and either of us could get over it...it was horrible...eventually I moved out...then we were trying to get back together, but it didnt happen...the very last thing that we said to each other was....later on in life...if we are both single...can we try this again? and we both said yes...and now I am single....I have no clue where she is, but I am sure I could find her..I am thinking she is in San Diego..the last place we where together....sorry for the long post..should I find her and talk to her?

geonagual Reviewed by geonagual on 08-15-2007. Should I find her? Well, this will be my last thread, cause I need to get some shit done..haha although, I am dating now, and one has told she loves me and wants to get serious...I cant stop thinking about the one that got away.. I know you all have heard the story of the girl that you cant get out of your head...you dream about...well, I have one of those... When I was seperated from my wife about 6 years ago...I was with this girl for 2 years...I loved her more than anything...the sex was great...we would Rating: 5

[stinkyattic]

I don't know.
Maybe, maybe not. MAybe just to give it some closure.
As for the one who has already dropped the l-bomb... I hope you guys have been spending a LOT of time together... in my experience, saying you want to get serious kinda comes BEFORE the l-word gets dropped on the table.

[420MissHighTimes420]

sounds too romantic to me, i say go for it! ooohh reunited love.

[slipknotpsycho]

i had two of them actually... one i wanted to be with and one i wanted to tell how sorry i was for being a total lying dick...

i found both.... i suggest you do the same, even if yal don't get together... i know i would have never been able to rest if i hadn't found 'em.... just the torture of wondering where they are and what they're doing is enough...

[GraziLovesMary]

hehe I know whatcha mean.. I got one, and we never even dated.. weve always just been friends, but I cant help but be in love with her. She has a boyfriend though, the same one shes had the whole time Ive known her. I will never tell her how I feel, and we will never end up together (Unless I get drunk and write an email I cant take back which Ive almost done a few times.. lol). So she will be the woman I will always regret not being with, but will always hope shes at least happy lol. I even dream about her... which is wierd because I DONT DREAM. The dreams are always fleeting upon waking but I always know when it was about her because I cant get her out of my head for the whole day. Meh.. not sure why I wrote that lol but there it is. She is my Artemis.. my goddess of the hunt. Now if I ever find my Athena.. then fuck its all over. I love violent warrior women lol.

I would say contact her and get to know her long distance to see if you think you two will still be combatative with each other. Fighting blows (between couples anyways). If you decide to do it, good luck!!

[DarkHairedSativa]

hehe I know whatcha mean.. I got one, and we never even dated.. weve always just been friends, but I cant help but be in love with her. She has a boyfriend though, the same one shes had the whole time Ive known her. I will never tell her how I feel, and we will never end up together (Unless I get drunk and write an email I cant take back which Ive almost done a few times.. lol). So she will be the woman I will always regret not being with, but will always hope shes at least happy lol. I even dream about her... which is wierd because I DONT DREAM. The dreams are always fleeting upon waking but I always know when it was about her because I cant get her out of my head for the whole day. Meh.. not sure why I wrote that lol but there it is. She is my Artemis.. my goddess of the hunt. Now if I ever find my Athena.. then fuck its all over. I love violent warrior women lol.

I would say contact her and get to know her long distance to see if you think you two will still be combatative with each other. Fighting blows (between couples anyways). If you decide to do it, good luck!!

Awwww....that's so sad.... forbidden love....

[420MissHighTimes420]

I acutally put a little thought into this -- after my late lunch break joint of course -- and I would say that you should try and contact her just to talk and catch up because I know how frustrating it can be when your wondering where someone is, and what they are doing, and if they ever think of you too and all of that jazz. But in the end you might just get more hurt if you persue a relationship with her. I once was with a guy who I fought allll the time with, and I thought that after a few months - about 6 things would have calmed down - and boy was a I wrong after I found him and had a long distance relationship with him the fighting just got worse and worse. I saw him recently for a dinner wen he came up here to visit everyone, and although its pretty clear we still love each other (becuase I swear love doesnt ever go away ) I'm glad we arent goign to get back together, because once a problem in a relationship always a problem. (unless you realllyyyy want it to change, and both of you are going to need to change)

Im young and confused about relationships as you know so it might not be good advice at all, just my thoughts.

[Weedhound]

Geo....ABSOLUTELY!! What are you thinking? If she's not available then fine.....but don't sit here and ask us....GO DO IT!!!

EDIT....sorry....what would you do about the woman you are dating now?

[Weedhound]

Ok, after reading the entire thing here's what I think.

One....stop using the woman you're dating now as a crucifix against being alone. It's not fair to her and it will keep you from growing. Neato that she loves you.....you obviously don't love her. Nuff said there.

Yes, I would try and contact this other woman AFTER you have straightened your own relationships issues out.....not before. Maybe she has moved on....maybe not. You don't know until you look around and ask.

Sounds to me like you need to get to know yourself first......try some silence.

Good Luck Geo.

[FakeBoobsRule]

You should find her and cover her in chocolate and then leave again LOL.

Does she smoke?