Little late into this thread, but I guess I will post my share.

I am currently dating a girl that I have been with for just over 3 yrs, who I am getting ready to break up with. Love the girl to death, but over those 3 yrs we have both changed alot, and we dont share anything in common. One day I just sat down, and thought to myself, I dont think I would ever hang out with this girl, and we wouldnt be friends at all if we werent dating. And I want who I am dating to be my best friend, someone who I can share some of the things I enjoy with, and thats just not the case.

She doesnt like me smoking, she isnt a big fan of me being a gamer, she doesnt like my outlook on life, and I despise hers... just a bunch of problems that I have been overlooking because I thought loving her meant it was ok to overlook, but I kinda realized one day that you can love someone, but not be IN love with someone anymore. And thats what I feel like here.

The fun part is figuring out how to go about breaking it off with her. I dont want to hurt her if possible, which I know it isnt, but still, you care for someone long enough, and you still want things to be as nice as possible for them, no matter what the situation may be.