Married, 10 years. Love him dearly. Heat,not really, but that's okay, I have had plenty of heat and heartbreak in my life, esp since he's husband #3. That used to bother me, but my own chemistry is changing and that heady physical experience now matters much less than our continued support of each other. Maybe I'm jaded about "being in love," but sex used to rule me- I was drawn to men for all the wrong reasons (he's so cte!!), and now I feel free of its tyranny. I found a great guy who loves me, a man I love and respect and can laugh with, cook with, and share even the deepest sorrows and still feel hope. I'm pretty lucky