Im always just the friend...

[thcbongman]

i cant just like, bam, give her a kiss, she has a bf and ill respect that. but idk, if we hang out at the fair this week, maybe when we go to leave i might just be liike "thanks for spending the night with me", and give one on the cheek

Re-read what you say, and reflect if this was someone else saying what would you said. Come to your own conclusions.

Sometimes you have to take a leap of faith! There could be something great on the other side, or you could be flat-out rejected. But you'll never know otherwise.

[budsmoker only]

i have to agree with thcbongman.....
hes a smart dude..

you will never know until you try... and then sometimes it will kill you not to know... or at least with me it could...

you dont wanna be later on down the road be like, "i wonder what could have happened" or some shit like that....

[partcleguy]

Totally agree^^

Did it myself sorta recently over the summer. I was walking back to the bar with the girl I liked after dancing, something I nevvvver do. I stopped, said "I have to do something" and kissed her. Best idea ever not even because you find out whether she likes you or not, but because you said you were going for it and you did it. It just feels right. When you look back on it, its something to be proud of. From then on its only easier to do it too.

Go for it :thumbsup: (connect four)

[Straightupg]

soudns good i guess. now to just hope to not get denied!

[Gandalf_The_Grey]

soudns good i guess. now to just hope to not get denied!

Better to be denied than spend the rest of your life wondering.

[couch-potato]

The lil' birdie will never fly if he doesn't balls up and jump out of that damn nest!

From the looks of it, a kiwi bird can't fly but I found it adorably hideous so here you go:

[JD1stTimer]

I feel that way a lot. No one respects someone good who is willing to share and take the time to talk about life. That's not really true, there are some who do, but they are the ones who end up in good relationships and most of the time it's because they are a little bit older and have the maturity to see through the bullsnit that the younger/inexperienced people get caught up in. This causes problems for those of us who have always understood these things even from a young age. Personally if I could learn to be attracted to the cougars out there my story would read a little differently. But hey, for me personally, the Ms. Robinson thing isn't my bag, and even the Kutcher/Moore business is a little creepy to me. The problem is, the ones who are young and have figured this out have either been completely ripped up by multiple abusive relationships (they will think that they are being fooled yet again, and you are just waiting for them to trust you before you turn into their monster), or they are just simply so few and far between that you may not ever meet them. I'm in a depressive funk right now, and when I get in one of these moods at the same time that I'm attempting to start a relationship and I'm getting shot down I feel suicidal. Be careful about that if you tend towards depression sometimes, don't mess around with it until you lift out of it. Also, like others have said, you need to be more aggressive. The way I was raised, and with very little outside influence (I wasn't in public schools except for one elementary grade and highschool), was that things should develop as friendship first, and that any contact beyond closed-mouth kissing is in a gray zone near the Line That Should Not Be Crossed By Non-Married People, and therefore kissing is one of the last things before marriage. This mental programming has been so tough to break for me, I think I might need some psychological help to crack through it. Also something that helps me is to be high when I'm around women. It may be bothersome to them, and not actually help you at that moment, but you will find yourself saying things you wouldn't otherwise say, and if you can remember it later and reflect on it, and try to work it into your straight mindset it can help. It takes a lot of work to break habits though, just like quitting smoking. Also I find that being around my family and friends is a killer too. It pops me straight back into the dark ages just like that.

[JD1stTimer]

Oh yeah, and ladies, if you are tired of assholey men, and there is a nice guy who seems to be trying to get better acquainted with you... PLEASE help him out a bit if you think he's someone you could enjoy being with. To him being too forward is probably one of the defining characteristics of the asshole, which is the nice guy's mortal enemy. In other words, don't be afraid to push things in that direction even if you don't feel an immediate attraction. It might surprise you the way your feelings could do a 180 on you, and for the most part us Nice Guys WONT give you any grief over it if you change your mind about where things are going. Most likely we will just want to know what we could do better in the future. Oh, and we might cry also because we actually have real human feelings, but we'll save that for a pillow. Wow, deep down inside I'm a girl. lol.

[KingsBlend420]

You gotta let the relationship develop and if nothing happens tell her how you feel. For all you know, she could be keeping her feelings about you hidden because she thinks you don't like her like that.

[Reefer Rogue]

I think telling him to kiss this girl is bad advice and very disrespectful. Be her friend and if they break up, then tell her how you feel. Try and find another girl.