I feel that way a lot. No one respects someone good who is willing to share and take the time to talk about life. That's not really true, there are some who do, but they are the ones who end up in good relationships and most of the time it's because they are a little bit older and have the maturity to see through the bullsnit that the younger/inexperienced people get caught up in. This causes problems for those of us who have always understood these things even from a young age. Personally if I could learn to be attracted to the cougars out there my story would read a little differently. But hey, for me personally, the Ms. Robinson thing isn't my bag, and even the Kutcher/Moore business is a little creepy to me. The problem is, the ones who are young and have figured this out have either been completely ripped up by multiple abusive relationships (they will think that they are being fooled yet again, and you are just waiting for them to trust you before you turn into their monster), or they are just simply so few and far between that you may not ever meet them. I'm in a depressive funk right now, and when I get in one of these moods at the same time that I'm attempting to start a relationship and I'm getting shot down I feel suicidal. Be careful about that if you tend towards depression sometimes, don't mess around with it until you lift out of it. Also, like others have said, you need to be more aggressive. The way I was raised, and with very little outside influence (I wasn't in public schools except for one elementary grade and highschool), was that things should develop as friendship first, and that any contact beyond closed-mouth kissing is in a gray zone near the Line That Should Not Be Crossed By Non-Married People, and therefore kissing is one of the last things before marriage. This mental programming has been so tough to break for me, I think I might need some psychological help to crack through it. Also something that helps me is to be high when I'm around women. It may be bothersome to them, and not actually help you at that moment, but you will find yourself saying things you wouldn't otherwise say, and if you can remember it later and reflect on it, and try to work it into your straight mindset it can help. It takes a lot of work to break habits though, just like quitting smoking. Also I find that being around my family and friends is a killer too. It pops me straight back into the dark ages just like that.