My wife left me... So I got high

[slipknotpsycho]

The bitch just took half of my money out of the bank account. She hasn't worked a single minute for the last year and a half! WTF!

Pending this next phone call, its about to be over between us. I was hoping that things would change, but she had to go and do something completely brash like this. I can't even fucking pay rent now.

that sucks dude, cuz she's your wife and there ain't really shit you can do about it.... since yal got married, reguardless of how much she has or hasn't put in, she owns half your shit now.

dude i feel for you, i got married at 18, and we had our rocky moments of course, but we're making it now... but getting married so young is a bad idea, reguardless of how much you love that person.

you still got something on your side....

we're a family, we have a kid. that changes everything. that's the whole thing, the kid is everything. marriage is nothing without a kid, marriage is dating. it doesn't mean shit. and you don't realize it til you have a kid. here's what happens, when you get married you go holy shit! i can't leave now, i mean i wasn't think about leaving, but now i really can't leave. then you have a kid and say holy shit! i totally coulda left! the door was right there! now i can't go, i got a kid now.

[drivebyphilosopher]

A Girls voice here.:hippy:That really sucks I can understand somwhat how you feel. I am 20 years old I live with my 24 year old wounderful boyfriend I hope to marry one day. I have depression like your wife, depression is terrible. I've been working on what her habit is to. I am lazy and i procrastinate, I don't have a job wish I had one but want to get my high school diploma first. I am going to get better and treat my boyfriend better. But your wife does need help, try talking to her mother so she can slap some sence into her. My mom is always telling me to do better. Depression takes alot out of a girl cause we have so many emotions going on. Be patient with her always, walk away from lots of arguments when they are going no where. And yea I agree probaly the best thing for you to do is cut her off. She needs to learn life is about working to keep yourself living not being lazy.

Thanks. I value what you had to say there. I like hearing from a different perspective. I hope that she gets better one day, but I cannot forgive some of the things she's done to me. I am sorry for calling her a bitch, by the way, I don't like to degrade any woman in that sort of way, and I know the term is offensive to all women. I just feel so stabbed in the back. Its like she did it on purpose, treated me this way just to get money from me in the future, and now that I finally showed a little spine and told her to help, she just up and left, and took what she could.

[snicklefritz1825]

That is a bitchy thing to do. Yea alot of girls don't like it but hey we can be bitches like you can be asses. If you decide not to leave her cut her off still sounds like a good idea to me. Depends on how she truly feels about you.

[drivebyphilosopher]

that sucks dude, cuz she's your wife and there ain't really shit you can do about it.... since yal got married, reguardless of how much she has or hasn't put in, she owns half your shit now.

dude i feel for you, i got married at 18, and we had our rocky moments of course, but we're making it now... but getting married so young is a bad idea, reguardless of how much you love that person.

you still got something on your side....

Yeah. I know man. I know that she is my wife and is entitled to half. So be it, she can have it. If that is what she values over our relationship, then I no longer feel bad about us splitting up.

[Bluntmasterbabe]

You said she is young, and if you guys got together in school, she probably hasn't had the time or experience to realize what really goes into making a relationship work.
I'm not working right now, so I take care of the housework, errands, bills...etc. But when I start working, we'll split the chores 50/50. Cleaning and cooking is not just a womans job...I hate it when guys say that. But because I have more free time, and my husband is exhausted by the time he gets home from work, I take care of it. Gve and take kind of thing
You can't make someone grow up, but if you love her, try to work it out. Maybe you guys could get some counseling? There is always a way. If you don't think you can continue the relationship and be happy and satisfied, then move on. Best of luck to you.

[drivebyphilosopher]

You said she is young, and if you guys got together in school, she probably hasn't had the time or experience to realize what really goes into making a relationship work.
I'm not working right now, so I take care of the housework, errands, bills...etc. But when I start working, we'll split the chores 50/50. Cleaning and cooking is not just a womans job...I hate it when guys say that. But because I have more free time, and my husband is exhausted by the time he gets home from work, I take care of it. Gve and take kind of thing
You can't make someone grow up, but if you love her, try to work it out. Maybe you guys could get some counseling? There is always a way. If you don't think you can continue the relationship and be happy and satisfied, then move on. Best of luck to you.

I'd love to split the work 50/50 even though she DOESNT have a job. But 95/5% just isn't cutting it when all she does is stay at home all day and doesnt bother supporting the family.

[snicklefritz1825]

I just got done smoking 1 bong bowl of midgrade. I am very high right now and I am about to go walk down the street to Dbo's Hot wings.:stoned:

[snicklefritz1825]

Oops I'm so high I posted on the wrong thread.

[GraziLovesMary]

I skimmed through and read a good portion of the posts.. theres alot of them for one day!!

My friend.. it seems that you have come to terms with her immaturity and the fact that she will most likely not change any time soon. I would chalk it up as a loss and learn from your mistakes. Be much more reserved in future romantic endeavors in order to prevent falling too hard for somebody before you really know them. I have made that mistake a couple times and it always ends in disaster.

It would not be a bad idea to wait until you are done with school to get into another relationship.. clear your head a little.

You are very clearly a smart and responsible dude. Dont allow yourself to get sucked into young, petty, immature bullshit like this.

Depression is an excuse to be obsessed with yourself. I was depressed for quite some time, suicidal, bi-polar, all that shit. They had me on 3,000 mg of Depakote a day for it because my levels were so fucked up, I was poppin two of the pink 500mg horse pills three times a day. And one day I just stopped taking that shit, I didnt want to rely on medication anymore, that was just another crutch. Fuck all that shit.. depression is: magnifying your problems in your head so that they appear monumentally impossible to get over, then feeling sorry for yourself for what you have to go through. When I realized all that I became very embarrassed and got over all that dumb shit within like a day lmao. This is YEARS of depression, too, not just a 2 month stint lol.

I guess the point is, make sure when you start getting interested in another woman she isnt selfish and self-centered. Make sure she is mature and has her head on straight.

[drivebyphilosopher]

So she just called me. She still was not ready to apologise. She said she just needed the money, and that's how it is. I have no way of getting back from her, buy whatever. I asked her if I needed to get a lawyer, and she said "Do whatever you want." I asked her if she got a lawyer and she said no. I think she called me to get an appology from me! I called her a failure in yesterday's arguement, said that she wouldn't amount to anything if she keeps being so responsible. She said that was over the line and over the top, and a stupid reaction to her telling me to "shut up" I told her to pay the cable bill. I didn't think it was over the top, because told her that the reaction was not to her saying shut up, but to the whole situation in general and how much she doesn't help me.

She then brought up something I said a LOOONG time ago, about how "She doesn't need to help out physically, but just give emotional support" and I flat out told her that emotionally, she's done nothing but bring me down with her suicide threats and laziness. She hung up after that.