My wife left me... So I got high

[drivebyphilosopher]

I skimmed through and read a good portion of the posts.. theres alot of them for one day!!

My friend.. it seems that you have come to terms with her immaturity and the fact that she will most likely not change any time soon. I would chalk it up as a loss and learn from your mistakes. Be much more reserved in future romantic endeavors in order to prevent falling too hard for somebody before you really know them. I have made that mistake a couple times and it always ends in disaster.

It would not be a bad idea to wait until you are done with school to get into another relationship.. clear your head a little.

You are very clearly a smart and responsible dude. Dont allow yourself to get sucked into young, petty, immature bullshit like this.

Depression is an excuse to be obsessed with yourself. I was depressed for quite some time, suicidal, bi-polar, all that shit. They had me on 3,000 mg of Depakote a day for it because my levels were so fucked up, I was poppin two of the pink 500mg horse pills three times a day. And one day I just stopped taking that shit, I didnt want to rely on medication anymore, that was just another crutch. Fuck all that shit.. depression is: magnifying your problems in your head so that they appear monumentally impossible to get over, then feeling sorry for yourself for what you have to go through. When I realized all that I became very embarrassed and got over all that dumb shit within like a day lmao. This is YEARS of depression, too, not just a 2 month stint lol.

I guess the point is, make sure when you start getting interested in another woman she isnt selfish and self-centered. Make sure she is mature and has her head on straight.

If, and thats a BIG if (because I've been burned by women before) I find another one, you can damn well be sure I will give it a lot more time before I take the plunge. She was not ready for this, and I was not ready for her. This whole event was so immature and brash.

[GraziLovesMary]

If, and thats a BIG if (because I've been burned by women before) I find another one, you can damn well be sure I will give it a lot more time before I take the plunge. She was not ready for this, and I was not ready for her. This whole event was so immature and brash.

Dont feel bad dude Ive been there, I just got lucky and found her cheating before we got married. 4 years down the drain, but Im enjoying life single. Im not worried about sex, although its definitely something to miss, but I am happy. Just learn from the things that dont turn out the way you wanted them to.. analyze the "failures" then stop viewing them as failures and as lessons.

My immediate advice: begin the divorce process immediately. I am totally against divorce but in reality you guys got married way before you were ready, it was impulsive and doomed from the start. In no way is that your fault though, we are all just pawns in the game of love.

[NextLineIsMine]

Wow I think im the first to mention this. You are waaaaaaaaaay young to be married, even to be thinking about it. Most including myself parted ways with their girlfriends after high school with the understanding we both would grow in different ways and meet new people. Imagine how this will pad out over the next 5 or ten years, then make your move.

[surreys princess]

19? can you get an annulment? i dont have the track record to talk here, but damn...you need to get out while you can, i am sorry....neither one of you know who you are or what you want in life yet..seriously.....bag her clothes up and have her mom come get them and call legal aid.....i dont mean to be harsh, but....wow.........

"i can do bad all by myself"

good luck.....

[slipknotpsycho]

19? can you get an annulment? i dont have the track record to talk here, but damn...you need to get out while you can, i am sorry....neither one of you know who you are or what you want in life yet..seriously.....bag her clothes up and have her mom come get them and call legal aid.....i dont mean to be harsh, but....wow.........

"i can do bad all by myself"

good luck.....

yeah, i agree with this... i suppose i just got lucky.... i know it wasn't the smartest decision, but it worked out ok in the end. (though alot of that is probably due to us having a 2 1/2 year old.. we HAD to stick it out, cuz i wasn't about to let my son go through what i went through)

[HighTillIDie]

... wow, not so much a sucker... good man, do the healthy things, i like how you listened to her... and are still open to w/e... i would of just burpped in the phone and hung up, but i lack all real maturity

[Mike23artist]

do u want ur doctor to be high on weed or ur plumber one day u might be brushing ur teeth with human fecies

[drivebyphilosopher]

She's bluffing, guys! Lol. She really is, and I know it today. See, I thought she packed up her big boxes of sentimental stuff, becuase she had them all on the bed and ready to bring out with her. I just found them all in the closet. She would NEVER leave these in someone elses hands, they are important momentos to her, such as the flag from her dad's flag draped coffin. She's bluffing, and she will come back. Not that I'll take her back as - is, some things have got to change, but its good to have the info that she's bluffing.

[igot4cheep]

Dude don't play here game. If it's a game than do something else. But don't play along.

[rebgirl420]

Well hun, seems like your better off without her. Drop her like a fucking rock.