Quote Originally Posted by 420MissHighTimes420
I am attracted to guys like my boyfriend, well basically guys like my dad, who I have to fight really hard to get attention from, i never had any attention at all from my dad growing up, so now when I have a guy who doesn't give me attention - but sometimes does - the times wen he does, are the reasons Im with him, because I feel liek I was good enough to get the attention. I need to work on being secure with myself, I cant keep seeking validation from guys like I do.

And every guy I have ever dated I met in highschool. Or through a friend in highschool. I wanted to meet some new guys so I took this art class and ddin't meet anyone -- it was mostly women go figure, lesbian women too but Im not ready for that lol. I lve in a big city with a lot of hot young professionals so I feel like it shouldnt be that hard. Ive been working here for the past month, and moved down abbout 2 weeks ago, and have yet to me a single person! Wtfffff Im good looking - or at least I think so - so why dont guys come up to me more? I get nothing more than a hey baby or a wave . and ladies u no wut im talking about it only the old creepers who hit on you! wut is that?!

Not only are you incredibly beautiful, but you are also smart enough to know the fundamental underlying problem- the daddy that couldn't show love, is now the boy that also doesn't....this is not an uncommon situation. The low self-esteem your daddy fostered is still repeating the pattern- the part of you that feels unlovable due to dad's inability keeps seeking withholding types because that's all an unlovable deserves, and the part of you that feels finally validated when daddy or boy does show affection stays with them for those times. It is a terrible web to be caught in. The best thing you can do is work it out through therapy of whatever sort works for you, and there are many approaches. It is a difficult pattern to break, but not impossible. You may find a friendship on the net based on personality is a better lead in to a relationship than one that begins with the trigger of physical attraction, because that sex apect often masks the very things you need to be on the lookout for, which is a lack of consideration and appreciation of you!
Remember, the problem is not with the guys necessarily, for there are selfish people everywhere. The problem is that you are choosing to be with them, and while that means you have to do the hard work (They will seldom change, don't waste too much time hoping for that!) of making better choices and standing up for yourself, it also means You have the Power! I have walked that road and wish you strength!
If the time again comes where you feel degraded by anyone, reach into your higher being and use the strength which is there to walk away. Just leave. Once you do it you find it gets easier and feels great

P.S. Once you feel better about you, you will attract better men! Keep getting involved in things you are passionate about, and passion will find you!