Quote Originally Posted by khronik
I'm not saying this is you, but I've known a girl who has such low self-esteem that she cannot be in a relationship that isn't abusive. If a guy is too nice to her, she'll get the idea into her head that there must be something wrong with him, since he likes her.



It seems like you might be attracted to guys like your boyfriend because they give you a lot of attention at first. Maybe they are very persistent, and you have a hard time saying no.

If you really want to meet nice guys, try going to parties at engineering schools. They're all like 90% guys. Or you could go to a public LAN party (where they play video games). Or you could post a profile and a picture on a personals site like craigslist. There are millions of guys out there who are nice and considerate and single, but a lot of times they are kind of shy, and so they might be attracted to venues like personal sites. How do you normally meet guys? Do you just go with the guys that will come up to you and hit on you out of the blue?

I am attracted to guys like my boyfriend, well basically guys like my dad, who I have to fight really hard to get attention from, i never had any attention at all from my dad growing up, so now when I have a guy who doesn't give me attention - but sometimes does - the times wen he does, are the reasons Im with him, because I feel liek I was good enough to get the attention. I need to work on being secure with myself, I cant keep seeking validation from guys like I do.

And every guy I have ever dated I met in highschool. Or through a friend in highschool. I wanted to meet some new guys so I took this art class and ddin't meet anyone -- it was mostly women go figure, lesbian women too but Im not ready for that lol. I lve in a big city with a lot of hot young professionals so I feel like it shouldnt be that hard. Ive been working here for the past month, and moved down abbout 2 weeks ago, and have yet to me a single person! Wtfffff Im good looking - or at least I think so - so why dont guys come up to me more? I get nothing more than a hey baby or a wave . and ladies u no wut im talking about it only the old creepers who hit on you! wut is that?!