How do you cut it off?

[GraziLovesMary]

i've never been big on breakign peoples hearts.... i rarely ever tell them flat out i want them outta my life.... i'm a big puss, i admit it.

Nah nothin wrong with that, I hate breaking hearts myself. But to hold onto something that you know to be doomed guarantees even more heartbreak. You dont need them out of your life, just out of relationship status for it to be healthy again.

[geonagual]

"It's me, not you baby"

[slipknotpsycho]

Nah nothin wrong with that, I hate breaking hearts myself. But to hold onto something that you know to be doomed guarantees even more heartbreak. You dont need them out of your life, just out of relationship status for it to be healthy again.

yeah except the chicks i used to date, are very obsessive.... the girl i was with before i got back with my wife, was still calling me up like 2+ years later, like we were still dating

[geonagual]

I dont know how to start this, but I am going to Africa for 3 years...I am going with the Peace Corps to immunize infants in famished lands...if you dont want to wait for me I understand...Can we still write to each other?

Think that will work..LOL

[420MissHighTimes420]

DO NOT DO WHAT I DO
I keep them around until I have been sucked so dry that I dont have anything left. Then Im crushed. But then I find a new guy and the vicious cycle begins
be strong ladies (and men) if someone doesnt give you what you deserve (because everyone on here deserves a good relationship) cut them off! Dont stick around and let it get worse. Your all wonderful and only deserve the best.

[420MissHighTimes420]

It takes 2 strong, mature, secure people to remain friends after a break up. I am friends with some of my ex's, some we couldn't be put in the same room together alone.

It is best to be honest and do it quickly. Later on you can worry about whether you want to remain friends, after some time has passed.

:thumbsup:

[rebgirl420]

Im very honest and up front. I dont play games. And I dont use the "I wanna be friends" tired lines. Because frankly, I dont want to be friends and saying you want to still be friends is bull. Theres no nice way to do it without relying on the old cliches (It's not you its me, etc.), but guys hate to hear those. Soooo youve got to find a way to say the old cliches in new ways:

"I think your such a nice person and really good looking, but theres something about me that isnt ready to go there right now. Im just not ready to date you."

"Ive gotten to know you better and I think were too different- I dont think we'd have a good future together."

"Were at two different places in our lives, so I just cant date you."

Your a great guy, but im not interested in you for a relationship. If you want to be my friend, you can email me."

[rebgirl420]

oh and when you say "let's be friends" your leavong the door open in case you need him/her for something or so it wont be awkward if you run into each other later on. Most likely the person will never call to be your friend. But if you want to cut him/her off entirely avoid specifics. Bc if the person still really like you theyll find a way around your reasons. The simplest most generic sales talk proof breakup line is of course, "Im sorry we have no chemistry."

BTW dont do it over the phone or in an email or im. Thats the chicken shit way to do it. Be a real man or women and do it face to face.

[geonagual]

Do you cup your breasts at the same time your breaking up with them...LOL

[GraziLovesMary]

yeah except the chicks i used to date, are very obsessive.... the girl i was with before i got back with my wife, was still calling me up like 2+ years later, like we were still dating

Yeah I know the feeling man, ive had those types. Yeah those need to be cut off completely, thats where you may have erred.