Quote Originally Posted by Hilder420
whoever said its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all was obvioustly talkin out outta their ass. once u know what its like to love someone, really really love someone, then feel that void when theyre gone is one of the worst feelings in the world. i love my friends, my sister, my dogs and some dogs in my neigborhood, but i refuse to let myself love a man. never again. i know im pushing love away, but if u dont let ur self feel how can u have ur feelings hurt right? cynical i know.
From a Buddhist perspective, which the vantage point I attempt to view things from when I can remember, what you are describing is not love; it is clinging and craving and desire. Love is equanimity. It is not to be reserved for friends and family members alone. I think we sometimes confuse the word love with the words want and desire. Love is something that is given rather than taken for oneself. Practicing this is what life is all about. Sure ain't easy though...but there is no love that will not be painful, so get over that illusion first. Birth, decay, death. If you can't love that, what can you love?