Cheating

[maryjanemama]

Jacq A buddy of mine has had three serious realtionships. All is which is was unfaithful. He keeps telling me the next 'love' he finds he will be steady and what does he do? Cheats. The MAJORITY of guys who do cheat will do it over again and again expecially if you keep accepting them back.

Ok, I'm going to throw my 2 cents in here....again. I think the reason a lot of men lie in the first place is because they know their girl cannot handle the truth. Women ask questions and say they that they want to know the truth, but guess what? That's complete BS! They don't really, they want to be told everything is OK and they are the love of your life, blah, blah, blah. Case and point, have you ever told a chick what you really did last night? What happened? Did she get pissed off and cry or yell? Of course she did. Men lie to cover their asses, they figure it's better to lie and maybe get away with whatever they did then tell the truth and put up with their woman's complete spastic breakdown.

I can only speak for myself here. I've learned that if you truly do not want to know what's going on, don't fucking ask. If you want to know what's really up, make sure you can take the truth or at least won't turn into a complete psycho when you learn it.

Guys who lie and cheat and repeat in a relationship where it is not tolerated are usually losers without balls in the first place. These guys should not try to maintain "committed" relationships if that is not what they're about. Some guys love lots of chicks as often as possible, there's no secret there. But they shouldn't try to con a girl into thinking that they are something that they are not unless she's willing to jump in the sack with him the next time he brings one of the strippers home.

[NowhereMan]

How can u tell if your getting cheated on ?
If its been done before will they do it again ?
Should i spy and if so how would i go about it ?
Ive got a bad feeling im getting fucked over and im usually right when it comes to that kinda thing....

no sure way to tell
but that gut feeling you get says alot

without trust you have just
LUST
i hope it works out for you
if he cheats,,,drop his ass cuase he will always cheat on you
devotion is a sacred thing and hard to find
peace

[kraloth]

i say monogimy is bull if we were ment to mary one person and be with only that person why werent we born maried

[F L E S H]

i say monogimy is bull if we were ment to mary one person and be with only that person why werent we born maried

that's the stupidest logic I've seen in a long time. I'm not saying I'm all for monogamy and what not, but that's just plain dumb reasoning. There are plenty of species of animals that mate for life, they're not born married.

[altwnyguy73]

You're right, both ppl have to have an understanding first. That's why I put the part about both partners agreeing at the end. Doesn't anyone read the whole post before they comment?

Truth and honesty are the 2 biggies here. Cheating and lying are totally different than experimenting within a relationship.

Once a cheater always a cheater?!! Have you been talking to my mother? Kidding, altwnyguy73...I know what you're saying.

MJM...I am in complete agreement that there is nothing wrong with experimentation...variety is the spice of life as the say....I did read your whole post...just stating the fact swingers and cheaters are 2 very different situations...open sexuality...experimentation on a mutual basis is great in the right situation....but I still think people that cheat secretly are...well...bad people...nuf said!
PS- MJM ur avatars rock...............peace

[Garden Knowm]

Never dump them just because they cheated.... After all you will just end up with another cheater...
Can you imagine "loving" someone and then they go get the shit fucked out ofthem and have the time of their life.. and instead of being happy for them, you DUMP them..

doesn't sound like love to me..

now don't get me wrong.. I don't have this sht mastered.. and I know it can hurt like a motherfucker to know that your lady is fucking your best friend...

But LOVE.. LOVE is LOVE.. Love is NOT "I am dumping your ass because you had an orgasm with soemone else"

[Garden Knowm]

you find another reason to dump them like..

"you lazy, fat, non-inspiring, leacherous, smelly, no frisbee playing, no cock sucking, smelly ass pussy BIOTCH...

that's why I dump someone... : )

[Encatuse]

This weekend I found out my girlfriend cheated on me. I saw the guy in Econo-Foods parking lot. I shoved his face through his truck window. I then dumped my whore of a girlfriend, and chased the kid around with her car in the parking lot. Ha, talk aout fucking psycho. Anyway, 20 hours of community service and a two page essay... totally fucking worth it.

[jacquelyne]

ok well i know that i have been cheated on he admitted it to me.WTF do i do the circumstances are a bit awkward i dunno if i want to be with someone that hides something like that for over a year.If he told me right away when i asked him it would be much easier to forgive him.

[Encatuse]

Dump 'em. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't find it out the hard way. In another year he'll confess about something else.