No I'm not in NYC, I'm from DC. NYC subway riders are way more polite from experience, and people that live in DC are apparently more "sophisticated." By their manners displayed, opposite would show.

And I don't deem having basic etiquette to be only gender-related. If a car is so stuffed, people are literally crushed against one another, someone has to move to let people through. It's not about asking. It's about showing basic courtesy.