So we're going to be hanging out with John's friends a lot more....

[rebgirl420]

And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out.

The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of his friends and embaress him. But since I clam up around them they think I dislike them. I guess im shy around them. Once I know people however im fine. Im outgoing and I love to talk and stuff. Its just that I get SOOOOO damn anxious. *sigh*

How can i fix this?

rebgirl420 Reviewed by rebgirl420 on 08-09-2007. So we're going to be hanging out with John's friends a lot more.... And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out. The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of Rating: 5

[Fugitive]

I've always been an introvert, but lately I've been working on it, one thing I always used to do when I got home was too analyze everything negatively, all the things I said and how it was perceived etc.. I wanted to not care anymore and thought that if I'm doing it they must be doing it too ! they're probably not thinking about what I did or said..

Just say the things you want too say and its more fun and easier too connect with people. If I constantly try and think of the right thing to say I end up being boring and nervous.

[TallulahGreen]

And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out.

The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of his friends and embaress him. But since I clam up around them they think I dislike them. I guess im shy around them. Once I know people however im fine. Im outgoing and I love to talk and stuff. Its just that I get SOOOOO damn anxious. *sigh*

How can i fix this?

My boyfriends friends are just as much my friends as him. In fact, when my boyfriend isn't around ill hang out with his friends. They are my best friends. I never look at them as his friends, and my friends are just as much as his friends as they are mine. We never have the opportunity to really have friends that aren't friends with both of us....

Just be yourself...I mean if John likes you his friends will probably like you. I can't imagine not being friends with his friends.

You will be fine, just do it.:thumbsup:

[Chronisseur]

Understand this. WOMEN ARE THE DOMINANT SPECIES.

You know your hot, but maybe you dont realize how nervous the guys are around YOU!
Are you maybe lacking the self confidence? You dont have to answer but maybe think to yourself.."why am I shy?"
I've had bad anxiety for all my life, and no longer take meds for it. What it came down to, was me giving myself the credit I deserved, to live MY LIFE for ME! This is all choppy cuz Im EXTREMELY BLAZED but I'll try 2 explain better later!

[Chronisseur]

i'm pretty sure every straight guy in this world thats staring at you is thinking bad things.

I'm just gonna assume you're being sarcastic. Even so, what the hell kind of thing is that to say?:wtf:

I for one, look at Reb and think, damn, thats a good woman! Not often a girl can look that good AND be a loyal partner! Much respect for that!:thumbsup:

[cannabis campbell]

Yeah like slip said its only fair really.. but the best and only way I think it to just get to know them better the better you get to know them than the more comfortable you will feel around them and the more you will talk, dont worry everyone gets a bit nervous and stuff sometimes :greenthumb:

[FakeBoobsRule]

Talk to them about cannabis dot com!

One of my friend's used to come up with a "schtick" a couple of hours before hand whenever he meant new clients for work. Try to plan some things you can talk about before hand. Find out some of their likes or hobbies. Or you could be a total fake and get them talking about themselves and act interested and then they just start talking about themselves and let's face it, people like talking about themselves.

[ghosty]

smoke a bowl before you meet them, that always makes me less nervous when meeting new people. you dont even have to get really high, just a little buzz and it usually takes the edge off anxiety. You'll care a lot less about what they may be thinking of you and be more talkative, unless you're the type that gets quiet and introspective when high, then discard this advice.

[rebgirl420]

I hope I warm up to them soon..I hate feeling like this^

[gravity420]

first!, i'd make my own, good time, priority number one,

then I'd breathe deep to relax

everyone else will also begin to relax, when you look relaxed

when at a awkward silence
in a mello tone, i'd randomly discuss things funny, clever, insightful or things in common. you may be surprised how a little humor makes everyone content

i'd pop in a comedy dvd like a new jackass movie

the movies called, Bean and also Rat race, starring rowan atkinson, are unique humor

Rowan Atkinson

I'm gonna go watch, Mr. Bean's Holiday, at the movie forumz website, for free