So we're going to be hanging out with John's friends a lot more....

[psteve]

Start with one at a time.

[birdgirl73]

Sounds like it's just a matter of getting better acquainted with them and getting your comfort level up a bit, Reb. That'll happen with familiarity and repeated exposure. Just be yourself and give yourself time to get to know them and try not to have unrealistic expectations of yourself. Friendship takes time to develop, even for the most outgoing people. I'm sure they'll love you in no time.

[rebgirl420]

Thanks bg. I sure they do *crosses fingers*. I think I have really bad self esteem b/c whenever I see them all I can think is, "Man I bet their thinking about how fat I am." or other crappy thoughts.

[birdgirl73]

This is when it's time to give yourself one of those Daily Affirmations With Stuart Smalley-sorta talks, and old comic routine from "Saturday Night Live." Stuart would have termed your current self-talk "Stinkin' thinkin'." He used to sit down with a hand mirror and look at himself and say, "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!"

[rebgirl420]

hahahahah BG! I think ive seen that before. And Billion, I did tell him but theres not much he can do. Ill discuss it with him when he gets in from work. Which should be in 2 or 3 hours now actually.

[rebgirl420]

Well Im not shy to his friend Chris. Because I was alone with him and John one morning and me and him talked for a good 2 hours. But see Chris is like, 40 something. And ill talk to him no problem. But John's other friends Dave and Dan are his age, 20 somethings. Its those 2 that get me nervous. I end up feeling like such a child. And I dont want them to know im nervous around them. That makes me feel weak.

[gravity420]

first!, i'd make my own, good time, priority number one,

then I'd breathe deep to relax

everyone else will also begin to relax, when you look relaxed

when at a awkward silence
in a mello tone, i'd randomly discuss things funny, clever, insightful or things in common. you may be surprised how a little humor makes everyone content

i'd pop in a comedy dvd like a new jackass movie

the movies called, Bean and also Rat race, starring rowan atkinson, are unique humor

Rowan Atkinson

I'm gonna go watch, Mr. Bean's Holiday, at the movie forumz website, for free

[rebgirl420]

I hope I warm up to them soon..I hate feeling like this^

[FakeBoobsRule]

Talk to them about cannabis dot com!

One of my friend's used to come up with a "schtick" a couple of hours before hand whenever he meant new clients for work. Try to plan some things you can talk about before hand. Find out some of their likes or hobbies. Or you could be a total fake and get them talking about themselves and act interested and then they just start talking about themselves and let's face it, people like talking about themselves.

[gravity420]

make or buy a fun party snack to eat for yall's get togethers

pizza, chinese or mexican food delivery is cool

it shows friendliness and a pro-social attitude

if ya get erked or just dont wanna hang out on a certain day....just say your not feeling well and then go somewhere else