So we're going to be hanging out with John's friends a lot more....

[rebgirl420]

And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out.

The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of his friends and embaress him. But since I clam up around them they think I dislike them. I guess im shy around them. Once I know people however im fine. Im outgoing and I love to talk and stuff. Its just that I get SOOOOO damn anxious. *sigh*

How can i fix this?

rebgirl420 Reviewed by rebgirl420 on 08-09-2007. So we're going to be hanging out with John's friends a lot more.... And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out. The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of Rating: 5

[ghosty]

smoke a bowl before you meet them, that always makes me less nervous when meeting new people. you dont even have to get really high, just a little buzz and it usually takes the edge off anxiety. You'll care a lot less about what they may be thinking of you and be more talkative, unless you're the type that gets quiet and introspective when high, then discard this advice.

[rebgirl420]

haha Id like to smoke but his friend is training to be a cop haha. He can tell if im high. Not that he cares, he used to smoke and he still drinks. Its just that I dont wanna be paranoid that he's staring at me and thinking bad things haha.

[zino11]

just wait a little and make sure john explains it my brothers new girl is just like that like i thought she didnt talk at all but about a week with her around i cant get her to shut up lol

[happiestmferoutthere]

I'm the same way. Quiet, sort of shy. But I have always been like that. Frankly, I am upfront about it and say early on , " Look, I'm a bit shy and uncomfortable with people I've just met. I might be quiet or seem aloof. But, it's me, not you, Once I get to know you I'll talk my face off, and once you get to know me, I guarantee you'll love me."
Its really always worked. People get it. Spells it out for them. Oh and of course, being high always helps. Even if its to your head.

[tootsie roll]

And this is bothering me intensly. He has always really hung around with my friends more but recently he has been getting back with his friends. Which is fine as long as he calls me and tells me where he's at im fine. But now he wants us to all hang out.

The problem however is that whenever I am around his friends I totally get extremely nervous and I dont say anything and I come across as mean. Im not good with people I don't know. Especially guys. I just don't want to look bad in front of his friends and embaress him. But since I clam up around them they think I dislike them. I guess im shy around them. Once I know people however im fine. Im outgoing and I love to talk and stuff. Its just that I get SOOOOO damn anxious. *sigh*

How can i fix this?

I think that happens to a lot of us when we first start seriously hanging with our sweethearts friends.
A group of new people
all kinds of expectations
It's scary.
Just start slow. Mingle a little and when you get nervous, head back to what you determine to be a safety zone.
Little by little, your sweet self will emerge. Just like a butterfly from a catapiller.

[Blitzed]

I would smoke a bowl or two befor going out, and just try to make small talk. Im sure if your fiance likes them, they cant be too hard for you to get along with. And just smile a lot!

[rebgirl420]

Yeah I may smoke a bowl or two before I go. Its just the initial meetings that intimidate me. After that im open and funny and stuff and im really outgoing. Guys just intimidate me when I dont know them. Especially since their all like 6-7 years older than me. I was the same way to John but alas, used sex to diffuse the situation. But its not like I can with his friends. This is going to be horrible.

[rebgirl420]

I think that happens to a lot of us when we first start seriously hanging with our sweethearts friends.
A group of new people
all kinds of expectations
It's scary.
Just start slow. Mingle a little and when you get nervous, head back to what you determine to be a safety zone.
Little by little, your sweet self will emerge. Just like a butterfly from a catapiller.

Exactly! I wanna blow them out of the water. I want to make John proud. I wanna have his friends like me. But I just cant get over that initial BUMP.

[king of the world]

just tell them your real shy around people you dont know.