relationships are about respect.... sorry dude, but if she's not ok with it, she's not ok with it..... you may talk your way into getting her to let you do so, but that doesn't mean she's ok with it. that's all i really have to say on the subject, and don't take it wrong, it's nothing negative i'm just giving my input on the situation..

and i well know where you're coming from as i was trying to convince someone to let me grow... i had the permission, then when it came time to start buying the setup they changed their mind..... (just incase you think i'm saying that because i can grow and you can't so i don't understand your frustration, there's even a thread about it if you don't believe me, or was..)

anyways.... it's up to you, that's just my opinion on the subject..