What is it with the guys? Do you just turn on a light switch, slap each others butts, do a high five and everything is "the same again"

Dude...I find this amazing. I asked her back. She said yes. Now I'm so depressed because its not the way I want it. Absolutely nowhere in this thread did anyone talk about how SHE might have been affected by all this. Sensitive new-world men....my ass!!!

Yeah, speaking as a woman.......I'd be distant too. Sounds like you two need to sit down and have a serious talk and guess what.....you should start. You want her to trust you again? Better start giving her a reason.