Mixed Signals

[thcbongman]

Kiss her.

I'm telling you. They'll be a moment when you feel it, look into her eyes, and do it! To hell with doubt.

[Jibboom]

Thanks for your replies everyone, I don't know what I was expecting posting this, whether I was looking for advice or just wanted to vent some of the confusing thoughts I've had but I'm glad I did.

Another good thought....your dates don't even get to open their mouths and already you're making judgments about what they think while playing the same game yourself by not stating what you mean and bs'ing around yourself.

I hadn't looked at it this way (even though subconciously I know that's what I'm doing), and it's helped me realise that a lot of this is in my head and as other's have suggested I should just 'step up to the plate'.

In some ways I feel I have stepped up to the plate in trying to initiate some kind of contact outside of work, since she see asked me first it made me quite confident about it all but now I'm more confused than ever.

I was casually texting her last night and just told her that 'i'll leave it up to you if you want to do anything this week just let me know'. She replied earlier today saying can we do it next week cus she's a bit 'spent out' whatever that means lol, so I'm pretty much just gonna cool things now cus it doesn't seem like she's interested based on that (im sure she could find time if she wanted to see me).

I havn't replied yet, I don't know whether to make some joke like 'sure 'next week' lol' (there is sarcasm there if you couldn't tell) or whether to take it more seriously and just say to her its fine if she doesn't want to do anything I just want the truth as opposed to empty promises etc..

I thank anyone who's managed to read all my self-obsessed, adolescent drivel about this and any advice is always welcome still. This girl is a great laugh and I'd be happy to be friends in all honesty, maybe I'm already in the friend zone which would be fine but then why would she not want to go catch a movie or something.

Time for me to chilax and to stop thinking about this for a bit I think. :jointsmile:

[Weedhound]

Ok.....here's what you do. Find something you know she likes.....tickets to a certain concert or whatever (make sure it's something you enjoy as well in case she turns you down). Then you go to her and ask her to go.....no fudging, no maybes, no "if you don't have anything better to do" baloney. Would you like to do this? I heard you were a fan (or whatever works there). Don't improvise, lose your nerve, or figure out what she's thinking......just straight up ask.

If she says yes, there you go and no backing out. If she says no, find another lucky friend to go with. That's the best you can do.

Good luck

[Weedhound]

The games we play... it is what makes life worth living. And that is love. Love is all you need.

I would stop the texting all together. Find out were she lives personally come over and talk to her. In a calm, non threatening manner and tell her how you feel. All girls want is love.

Hey I really like you, I think you're really special person. Beautiful.. I wanna get to know more about you.

Can I take you out?

And I'd say yes to that in a second......LS is already making me swoon....

[Fugitive]

I wouldn't say too many things like I really like you, I think you're really special person. Beautiful.. I wanna get to know more about you. Can I take you out? that's too much shell think you're creepy and desperate IMO.

You need to make her one concrete offer,don't ask where she would like to go...

I think we should stop fooling around, lets go somewhere at 8 tomorrow. If not then I wouldn't compromise.

[CUPNOODLES]

SHE WANTS 2 FUCK SERIOUSLY TRY UR LUCK AT MAKING A SEXY TIME WITH HER....MAYB THATS Y SHES INVITING U 2 GET DRUNK WITH HER??

[CUPNOODLES]

OR SHE CULD JUST LIKE U AND THAT WUDD EXLPAIN Y SHE WANTED U 2 GO OUT WITH HER AND HER FRIENDS