Quote Originally Posted by birdgirl73
I think it's a sweet, gentlemanly gesture just like the offer to light a lady's cigarette or hold out a chair. Problem is, there are so many young women nowadays who've never seen such offers extended that such gentle chivalry takes them by surprise and makes them feel like they're being condescended to instead of pampered.

I think it's lovely when either gender extends a courtesy to the other, whether it's fetching a drink, serving a plate, opening a door or lighting something to be lit. I confess that when men hold my chair out for me or hold doors open, I find that very charming and sexy. I'm an old lady, though, so I remember when that was standard operating behavior.

I agree with this 110%! I also think that it makes a difference what part of the country you're in....I've noticed recently that people are alot more chivalrous in the south. It's just a more genteel place...I've been in Arizona a couple of weeks now, and it's really hard retraining myself not to speak to every person I pass on the street or wave at other drivers....I held the door open for an older couple at the store the other day and I thought they would die from the shock of someone not just rushing past them and bowling them over.
As far as the smoking situation....if it's MY weed, we're smoking it MY way. People can offer all they want, but nobody's touching my stash but my fiance. From my smoking experience, proper weed etiqutte dictates that when you're smoking with someone, and it's their weed, they do the initial rolling or packing or whatever. If they ask you to then you can step up or defer, but initially the choice is the owner's.
Perhaps these guys were trying to be gentlemen, perhaps they were being jerks...if it made you feel uncomfortable, tell them! Tell them you didn't appreciate the way that they came at you and that you feel yourself to be just as competent in packing and rolling as the next person and if they don't like it, they can kick rocks...