Don't think it would be like this if I were a guy.

[GraziLovesMary]

Grazi you're right it ticks me off so bad, the first person I ever seriously smoked with liked to really rip up the bowl with her flame, and she would yell "Cached!" when there was still a ball of resin that was cherry in my opinion (Still red, still giving me smoke). Then she would make fun of me for how high I was and I was a lightweight, and at the time I thought it was true but now I know.. when I was rescuing her cherry and not flaming the bowl again I was actually getting more THC. :thumbsup:

Yeah theres some residual THC in there alright that you are saving, but more than that, you were getting even more CBD, because it has a higher vaporization temp, and doesnt get destroyed at the lower temperatures that THC does. So in reality its a two-for-one deal.

[sexy smoke]

Not sure if this is the right place but...

Do any other females feel like they're getting ripped off, (in more than one way & in more of a social sense), because they're female?

Let me explain. I've gotten comments like "Let me pack it for you" or "Let me light it for you". My instinct is to be offended. Now, I'd be offended whether it was a male or female that made the comment, but it's males (in my stoner life) who have been saying it, and I don't know really, but it's the vibe I get and tone I hear combined that make it feel like it's because I'm female.

Now, I know I can pack a good bowl. I can light my own damn bowl. I've been smoking for a while now and I smoke pretty much every night unless there's money issues.

My other question is, should I be offended? I don't get these comments often (but often enough to be slightly annoyed). And it's seems it's only the first couple times I smoke with somebody.

Answers, opinions, advice?

Peace
:hippy:

No you should NOT be offended.

I would LOVE someone to pack for me every time, STOP MOANING ABOUT IT, it's hardly a sexist gesture, men are just programmed to...try...to make life a little easier for women, but when you fire out SHIT like this it completely undermines any male action. Damn the fucking 70's, now "sexism" is actually moving into TOKING?

[sexy smoke]

i'm not offended by stuff like that at all. i love gentlemen. if a guy wants to do a task for me, i don't look at it like he's doing it b/c i'm an incapable inferior female, i look at it like he's doing it to be nice. he doesn't have to roll my j for me but he's doing it anyway.

Exactly, 40 years ago that would have been the opinion of most women, fuck it, most PEOPLE. Very VERY few men actually do a task for a woman because they think she is incapable, get your fucking feminist head around this fact PLEASE. I'd fucking love a woman to hold a door open for me, roll a joint for me, give me a seat on the bus for me, pack my shopping for me, but it's never going to happen! You can't fucking win if your a guy!

[nurse maryjane]

I think it's a sweet, gentlemanly gesture just like the offer to light a lady's cigarette or hold out a chair. Problem is, there are so many young women nowadays who've never seen such offers extended that such gentle chivalry takes them by surprise and makes them feel like they're being condescended to instead of pampered.

I think it's lovely when either gender extends a courtesy to the other, whether it's fetching a drink, serving a plate, opening a door or lighting something to be lit. I confess that when men hold my chair out for me or hold doors open, I find that very charming and sexy. I'm an old lady, though, so I remember when that was standard operating behavior.

I agree with this 110%! I also think that it makes a difference what part of the country you're in....I've noticed recently that people are alot more chivalrous in the south. It's just a more genteel place...I've been in Arizona a couple of weeks now, and it's really hard retraining myself not to speak to every person I pass on the street or wave at other drivers....I held the door open for an older couple at the store the other day and I thought they would die from the shock of someone not just rushing past them and bowling them over.
As far as the smoking situation....if it's MY weed, we're smoking it MY way. People can offer all they want, but nobody's touching my stash but my fiance. From my smoking experience, proper weed etiqutte dictates that when you're smoking with someone, and it's their weed, they do the initial rolling or packing or whatever. If they ask you to then you can step up or defer, but initially the choice is the owner's.
Perhaps these guys were trying to be gentlemen, perhaps they were being jerks...if it made you feel uncomfortable, tell them! Tell them you didn't appreciate the way that they came at you and that you feel yourself to be just as competent in packing and rolling as the next person and if they don't like it, they can kick rocks...

[ntcrawler]

My mom always taught me to open doors for girls/family/strangers but you will never see me open a door for a guy friend unless he just happens to be walking the coat tails of the girl :P

I definitely agree with the whole, MY WEED and NOT YOURS. Only time I have ever really lit a bowl for a girl is when she was driving.

[pass_the_dubbie]

Thought i'd chip in to this thread...although im in a rambling mood so im not sure if this is actually relavent...sorry if it isnt.

Im not friends with too many female tokers but my girlfriend has been smoking weed way longer than I have. If we arent inside and were rolling up we usually help to roll it together, it's not that we need to do it but its fun. It's like before we started dating, this other guy would always be out with us and he was always showing off to her. I asked him to roll up and he wouldnt so me and my girlfriend would roll up, she would hold the papers, I would put the mix in. It was the only time I got to talk to her one to one, which was great and built the foundations of are relationship.

I'll gladly roll up if I was asked to but I dont going around offering to, I enjoy seeing other people roll-up, male or female.

One thing I do know is that if I said to somebody, male or female "let me light it for you" i'd receive a slap.

Oh and people were talking about taking proper pipe hits, well ive got a nice purple pipe that has a blast hole in it so I only need to hit the weed with a flame for a short amount of time then I can sit puffing away on it.