Quote Originally Posted by OhxMuffins
Mm, I have to agree that I prefer to light my own bowl, cause I'm a big girl and I know how to handle a lighter. Also, I notice that whenever a guy lights the bowl for me, he pulls back as soon as he lights a tiny bit of the bud, assuming I won't be able to take a larger hit. It gets annoying after a while, especially if it's your weed, cause then you're just passing around your goodies and barely getting any off it.

I've smoked with plenty of guys that assumed I couldn't take as "fat" a rip as them, but I ended up proving them horribly wrong. First, they would hand me the piece and ask, "You want me to hold it for you? You know where the carb is right? You want me to light it for you?" And sure, first I'll act like a nice little girl and let them have their fun in generalizing me, but after that first rotation, a big girl has to be let out and have her way. And after that first rotation, some eyes widen up on those boys' faces and acceptance spreads.

But I do understand where the chivalry comes in, like when I'm with my boyfriend and he lights it for me, not because he isn't aware that I can compete, but because.. Well, I don't know, why do guys like to light the bowl for girls anyway? I'm guessing it doesn't have to do with sexual appeal at all....
Hmmm... see thats where I think misunderstanding is coming to play. If Im not mistaken hes not pulling the lighter away because he doesnt think you can take a big hit... most likely its because he knows that the heat from an open flame destroys about 50% of the THC on contact. The key is to take long slow tokes and let the cherry do the work, as the cherry is nowhere near as hot as a flame. Cover the opening of the bowl with your hand to restrict the volume of air going in(which increases the velocity) and take shorter puffs to encourage the growth of the cherry. I can get a monstrously enormous hit like this and I get much higher because I used barely any flame, and more of that beautiful Delta-9 TetraHydraCannabinol makes it to my lungs undamaged.