Don't think it would be like this if I were a guy.

[CannabisHappiness]

Not sure if this is the right place but...

Do any other females feel like they're getting ripped off, (in more than one way & in more of a social sense), because they're female?

Let me explain. I've gotten comments like "Let me pack it for you" or "Let me light it for you". My instinct is to be offended. Now, I'd be offended whether it was a male or female that made the comment, but it's males (in my stoner life) who have been saying it, and I don't know really, but it's the vibe I get and tone I hear combined that make it feel like it's because I'm female.

Now, I know I can pack a good bowl. I can light my own damn bowl. I've been smoking for a while now and I smoke pretty much every night unless there's money issues.

My other question is, should I be offended? I don't get these comments often (but often enough to be slightly annoyed). And it's seems it's only the first couple times I smoke with somebody.

Answers, opinions, advice?

Peace
:hippy:

CannabisHappiness Reviewed by CannabisHappiness on 07-29-2007. Don't think it would be like this if I were a guy. Not sure if this is the right place but... Do any other females feel like they're getting ripped off, (in more than one way & in more of a social sense), because they're female? Let me explain. I've gotten comments like "Let me pack it for you" or "Let me light it for you". My instinct is to be offended. Now, I'd be offended whether it was a male or female that made the comment, but it's males (in my stoner life) who have been saying it, and I don't know really, but it's the vibe I get Rating: 5

[da dubs]

hiya i,m a guy of 38.married 11years,,not sure if you would mind a mans input on this,,but hears what i think..

my wife(joanne) can and dose roll the most amazing spliffs,now in the past when she was learning how to roll,she would ask my advice on rolling,as in,how much to put in,how many skins etc. etc..
now she is an expert roller,but sometimes,i would still offer to roll for her,,my idea hear is that i,m just giving her a break from rolling,she dose the exact thing for me to,she will take over rolling duties some days,,

maybe the people who are offering to roll for you..are NO1.they dont think you put enough in/or to much in...NO2.they might like to roll and smoke there own..NO3..as we say in ireland,,they are gobshits...

:hippy:

[thcbongman]

They're just trying to be gentlemen

Chivalry lives on.

[rebgirl420]

Nah I wouldnt be offended unless he says it in a real asshole kind of way. But that doesnt happen to me bc I have a strict rule that only I touch my weed. I pack it and light it off initially (later on I dont care). But if it bothers you tell him/her. If you dont they'll never learn.

[Ganj]

Women have to take a more submissive role in this world. In this day and age, a woman's independence is valued and protected but still us men remain primitive in our thinking that women are incapable of doing things on their own. I don't know if anyone else has noticed a slight role-reversal in society. Nowadays, more men are becoming aware of their femininity and it's creating a lot of confusion in the sexuality department. How can a man get in touch with his feminine side without his sexual orientation coming into question? Personally, I try to maintain respect for a woman's desire to be independent. The times are changing for sure.

[brussels]

Women have to take a more submissive role in this world.

You've got to be kidding? Right? That means to me that women 'must' change how they feel about themselves, in order to pamper that oh so fragile male ego. Bullshit!

If I become condescending and patronizing with guys, most will certainly take offense, and rightly so: then go off and stew in some childish snit rather then express themselves about what might possibly be bothering them. Oh yeah, they go into their 'cave'. You see guys, most women will face the issue, discuss it, and then move on. It's not about agree or disagree, it's all in the process. And before you think I'm some bull dyke feminest, well it ain't so. I happen to like you guys around, as long as you can be house trained. lol

Gender has not one iota to do with being offensive. If men would simply be more submissive, learn to establish a repore*, and not get so freaked if another guys gives'em a huge, it would be such a lovely place to live...B

[brussels]

Women have to take a more submissive role in this world.

You've got to be kidding? Right? That means to me that women 'must' change how they feel about themselves, in order to pamper that oh so fragile male ego. Bullshit!

If I become condescending and patronizing with guys, most will certainly take offense, and rightly so: then go off and stew in some childish snit rather then express themselves about what might possibly be bothering them. Oh yeah, they go into their 'cave'. You see guys, most women will face the issue, discuss it, and then move on. It's not about agree or disagree, it's all in the process. And before you think I'm some bull dyke feminest, well it ain't so. I happen to like you guys around, as long as you can be house trained. lol

Gender has not one iota to do with being offensive. If men would simply be more submissive, learn to establish a repore*, and not get so freaked if another guys gives'em a huge, it would be such a lovely place to live...Peace, love and sweet smoke

[Hardcore Newbie]

I happen to like you guys around, as long as you can be house trained.

I like women, as long as they know their role

[Kid Dynamite]

If it's your own weed then i would be offended if someone offers to pack or roll for you...because they're effectively implying that they think you will do a crummy job. However if it's their weed then it's a totally different story.

And also, as several people have said, they might just feel like they're being nice and doing you a favour.

[imitator]

I always offer to pack a bowl or roll a J when others are around. Its just a sign of curtesy in my book.

Now of course, if they are being dicks about it, or refusing to let you pack or light or anything, then yeah, thats something I would take offense to as well.

I think the only time I have ever lit a bowl for someone was when they were new to smoking and using my bong, which confuses the hell out of them, or if they dont have their hands free but want to take a hit still. Then I have been known to light the bowl, and pull the slide/let the carb go for them, so that they dont have to stop what they are doing in order to smoke.