Quote Originally Posted by Gippie
BTW I can go in to more detail if needed, I am just giving you a general answer.

Do you learn anything about yourself from someone who is perfect for you? I'm a firm believer that misery provokes the instinct to learn. How can you learn anything if you're blinded by love? And how can you love if you're always miserable?

1) Through good relationships you can learn what to do/or expect
2) Bad relationships teach you what to avoid and stay away from. Also to see early signs and not let yourself get too deep too quickly
3) If you are blinded by love you wouldn't be with someone who is perfect for you. In a healthy relationship you know perfectly well all your partner's flaws, you just don't care xD sometimes you even think they are cute 6^
4) If you love when you are misereble THAT is when you are blinded by love.

We all have someone in our lives that brings out the worst in us. That person makes us absolutely miserable until we evolve beyond the need for that. Ultimately, you'll leave the person to embark on your new adventure. Is that when you find the right person? Or find a different person who teaches you something different about yourself (makes you miserable for different reasons)? There's no way of knowing what is in store for our future.

No there isn't... but if you embraced your first miserable relationship as a chance to learn, and you took the time to understand WHY you were miserable, you could learn from your mistakes, and the mistakes you may find in a partner to avoid the same consequence. Though it's very difficult for most people make the same mistakes over and over not realizing it.

I hear it all the time. Couples who have broken apart because they realize they're not right for each other. There's no way they could have prevented that. But what does it teach us about the relationship at it's beginning? Why did it take two years for one to realize that? Hence the phrase, "a fool in love." Now is a good time to point out that the phrase should have ended at "a fool."

If you are blinded by love there isn't much you can do. Though like I said, if you prepare yourself then this can be avoided the second time around. I've done it, and anyone else can if they really tried. The first love + blinded by love is almost unavoidable. But from that first break up you can change that.

And no one knows why we perpetually choose the wrong people. Could it be that we simply do not want to be alone in life?

I think we have as much power to choose the wrong people as we do to pick the right ones. And those who fear lonelyness are the ones that pick wrong.
You words are encouraging, Gippie. And a lot of good points too. Thanks for challenging my beliefs. Soon after reading your post, it became apparent to me that I didn't think things out too well. I'm definitely going to roll all of your ideas around in my head and see what I can discover with all of your help.