You wrote, "Personally if I could remove all sexual desire from my being I would do so." I felt the same way. Believe me, in time it will become less and less bothersome and some of it will be replaced with other thoughts and pursuits. This is not to say that it's gone, far from it. The mind should continue to mature as we mellow with age, including the sexual part. I learned to channel sexual energy into creative interests. After a while it becomes second-nature.

Although I'd had "relationships" when I was younger, none worked out to anything long-term. This may have had something to do with my total lack of desire for children, and also my hard-headedness. If you live alone, and can handle that lifestyle, you're fortunate. A lot of guys can't do it and get hitched, thinking that they'll be better off. Most are not.

The first thing to understand is that women choose us more than we choose them. When you find one, or rather a woman finds you, and it is the right chemistry, you'll be set. First you have to look around to find her - unless you're incredibly lucky. The sexual fire in the beginning of a relationship always goes down to a flicker, but that's just the nature of the beast. What's more important is the aforementioned chemistry.

I didn't meet the right person to marry until my late 30's, and tied the knot in just under five years, but I'm glad I waited. I stuck to my guns, and found someone that was not going to try to change me. This can happen for you, you just have to be open to it. There's someone perfect out there for most everyone, but the hard part is all the bullshit you have to put up with until it happens.

Just remember that plenty of unhappily-married guys, or guys that were married and are now paying alimony and/or child-support, would trade places with you in a minute.