oh and about changing your apperence, (no one get mad its just my opinon) yes you should want to be with someone because of who they are, not what they look like, ---- but not looking good tells you something about the person, when you are overweight (to me) it says you don't care about yourself enough to stay healthy and that you have a low self esteem. I am not shallow, but I wouldn;t date an overweight guy because of those reasons. so maybe you should just chalk it go on a diet, feel healthier, look better, and hopefully get some new bitches.