Hey Dude, I know that life can throw you some tough blows, but there are things you can do to help yourself out. I think that the first step for you is to get your head in the right direction. Finding the right person is a difficult task that some people never complete. Not to get all psycho-analytical on you, but I think that you have a confidence problem, probably spurred on by your weight. I personally suggest that you go to the doctor and get some information on SSRI's (Selective Serotonine Reuptake Inhibitors). You can see your general doctor for this, no need to see a psychiatrist. I suffer from a confidence problem and they work wonders. A nice side bonus is that the one I take (Zoloft), decreases your appetite, so you will drop a few pounds right off the bat. Beyond that, getting some sort of cardio workout will exponentially help your weight loss. Appearances are important, because that is really where your first impression lies with. I know it sucks, but that is reality. You will find someone, but you really need to seek it out, because often, unless you are really lucky, your soulmate will not just appear on your door step. Getting into some activities will help you meet new people. This is especially true if you join a gym and get into some of the classes. You should not have to change your interests to make the other person fit, the relationship will fit naturally. I feel for you bro, but your problems are definitely not without solutions. Good luck!