Quote Originally Posted by Melkane
I thought that if you find someone that truly loves you for you they'd look past such "superficial" things? The fact is if I were to alter my life to get into shape that would be such a drastic change that it would be changing who I am. Period. The things I do and enjoy have the drawback and to get into shape I'd have to completely stop them or drastically cut back. Sorry I'm not going to change everything about me just to get someone else to like me. And if I can't simply be myself and that be enough then I have EVERY right to complain.
What do you have to stop? I'm not telling you to stop anything. I'm suggesting you add. It doesn't require drastic changes. Baby steps man. Going for the moon will end up in failure. Bit by bit, build it up.

Sure a person eventually has to love you for who you are, but first you have to draw them in with some attraction. That's why it's important to look good, and show you take care of yourself. How are you expected to take care of a woman if you can't take care of yourself?

Something to ponder.

You have an animal inside you, you have to let out at some point.